Category: Femdom

Femdom Blog
The follow blog posts are a representation of Femdom and the Female Domination experience as told by Ambre Jade.
Femdom, Female Domination is the foundation upon which all my work is based. This component of my own sexuality is represented in these posts as well as how it may play out when you decide to pursue a session with me. It is not a game, it is a lifestyle for me. It brings together the vast majority of fetishes and sexual avenues in which I enjoy reading, writing and living.

Femdom discussions include topics such as BDSM, power exchange, Ds relationships, the dynamics between male and female counterparts. Find yourself learning more and increasing your submission and acceptance of a Female Dominated experience.

Read and enjoy. Feel your desire to submit increase with every bit of text. Find yourself craving this genre of sensual experience with each passing moment. Submission can be the ultimate freedom. And submitting to a woman is certainly most apt.

Fun Ignore Phone Play

September 14, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Fetish, Sessions

I finished such a fun call. My ignore phone line is so fun. Earlier tonight a Girlfriend of Mine and I were hanging out at My place. We needed some disconnect time. She is a Domme as well though not professionally, anyway, She was over. We decided like kick it old school, play some Mario 3. Oh yeah, you read that correctly. We were hanging out at My place, two sexy, fine ass Women, slipping wine and playing games from Our childhood. I turned My lines on, She knows what I do and supports it. Depending on the call She would either leave the room until I was done or partake.

The perfect line rings, My ignore phone line. Oh Goddess did We have so much fun. We were ignoring him of course, hearing his excitement in the background but Our attention was completely focus on the task at hand, beating that bastard icy, slippery Mario level. Finally made that level My bitch and as I did, that boy on the other end of the line (I have no idea what his name is, if he even has one) got so excited he couldn’t help but blow! you boys are so silly! Jerking to Mario video games. I am still fucking laughing! Such a delightful evening. Wine, company, Mario and money… an intoxicating combination.

Now you want some ignore phone play?

Well it is easy to set up. On Niteflirt it is easy. I have a line devoted to ignoring you on the phone. If you are calling My toll free number there is an extra step you need to add, it’s simple. Just an email, stating you will be calling and that you are looking to be ignored. I know it kind of feels like the spontaneity is missing but have no fear. An email with the number you will be calling from and a time frame (even something like “calling in ten” is sufficient). So much fun.

Time to be ignored bitches,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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An extra note, My ignore line is usually only available when I am out or doing something fun. Ignoring you while I am blogging or writing bores Me. I like to add a little excitement to it for Me. Makes it more entertaining 😉

Electro Play: Keep it current

September 9, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Fetish, Sessions

It’s interesting what a skilled pair of hands, some tape and the right Domme can accomplish. Electro play what a pleasure. I was having a bad day, yeah, it happens to the best of Us. My little boy john got to feel the full effect of an unhappy Ambre Jade. In My defense he built the fucking thing. I just got to play. Now before you dumb asses try building something similar make sure you have the knowledge.

What is Electro Play?

I suppose I should be more clear as to its purpose. As you can see from the multitude of images I have included, there are two rings, one placed at the base and one toward the tip. Each band or ring is attached to a wire which releases electrical stimulation from a battery (there is also a transformer so he was being safe). The voltage and number of pulses were determine by Me. How is this possible, you might be wondering? Well this twisted boy has it connected to a site where I can control and determine it. So through My finger tips, he would squirm, whimper, bend over and cry out in pain.

What a delicious cocktail of sadistic fun. Electro play or playing with electricity is really not for everyone but those of you that can handle the torture will find it a rewarding experience. Those delightful spams running through your otherwise useless dick all for the sake of entertaining Me, pleasing Me, showing Me just how far you are willing to go.

Does it go to eleven?

Sadly My Spinal Tap reference was lost as it did not have an eleven. But it was painful enough without such a high setting. Do you think you can handle some electro play? Can you handle the current rushing through your dick and the pain I rejoice in? Probably not! But that’s alright there are many other ways I can make you whimper!

Kneel for Maîtresse,

Ambre Jade

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Do NOT attempt to build something like this yourself. If you are not familiar with how things work leave them alone. you can easily purchase kits that will produce a similar effect!

Thoughts on Feminization

September 6, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Fetish1 Comment

There are so many different ways feminization manifests itself. With such a large variety of ways to interpret feminization finding your place can be difficult. Finding the right guiding hand can be a challenge. The most important thing for you to know is the answer to this question:

Where do you want to be in a year?

It is a simple enough question but when trying to create your feminization journey it is so important. It is crucial for you to know where you want to be.

Why is this so important? Because it helps your Domme create the right regime, path, journey for you. I hear so many people tell Me, just turn Me into your girl and do what you want with Me. Well, I have touched on that before and I do not really feel like talking about it again so read up. Where was I? Oh yes, knowing where you want to be in a year. A year is a long time, you can easily use a shorter time frame. The point is, you have a sense of direction. A place you want to go.

As a Domme, I am not a mind reader. your initial thoughts and goals are important. Some of you are looking to become cock sluts and sissy whores while others are trying to start their journey into crossdressing or playing with the idea of living as a Woman in your day to day life. I know there are Dommes out there who follow Their own schedule for each person, and create wonderful journeys for everyone to follow. They are used to dealing with a specific type of client. I am and always have been incredibly flexible with My feminization clients.

I enjoy the diversity of having a multitude of cross dressing enthusiasts, sissies and feminization clients. I like that every individual is unique. As is the woman deep inside you, she is unique too. She wants to enter this world freely. She wants to be allowed freedom from the confines of your inferior male exterior. Let her free. Let her live. Let Me guide you in your journey to breath life into her being.

Just know the answer to that question. Know what direction you want to start your path. It is only the start! There are so many places I can take you.

Kneel for your Maîtresse

Ambre Jade

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Commandment 1 Clothed Female Naked male (CFNm)

July 26, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Sessions3 Comments

This is the beginning of a series of Commandments which you will adhere to when spending time with Me, regardless of the medium. We will be starting with CFNm clothed Female naked male. I do not believe I should ever remove all My clothing. When I am being worshiped, you should always be without clothing. This includes hypnosis sessions. I understand that there will be time when this is not possible but whenever it is possible this is the only way to approach Me. I will not tolerate you dressing otherwise unless you are dressed as a Woman.

Why CFMn?

you being naked automatically puts Me in a position of power. Though I am always in such a position, I like that you have a constant physical reminder of that fact that I am in complete control. Let My clothing be a reminder of how Superior I am. I get to cover Myself, I get to dress in any fashion that pleases Me and you, you do not deserve the luxury of covering up.

Exceptions to My Commandment

There are always exceptions right? The only individuals exempt from My clothed Female naked male commandment are those of you boys who like to dress in Woman’s clothing. Panties, bras, lingerie, dresses are permitted. This is because your clothing is a part of your submissive side. Be advised, there will be times when I request you be nude!

Collars, play collars are also exempt from this commandment. you have My permission to wear one during our sessions. I would prefer that you ask permission before hand.

When Clothed Female Naked man is not possible

I am aware that CFMn is not always possible. Some call from work or in a public place or their Mother is home 😉 There are a couple of acceptable reasons. The only way to know if your reason is acceptable is to ask Me! The first words leaving your mouth beyond “Allo Maîtresse, should be you begging permission and informing Me that you are not in the proper attire! I will determine if your reasoning is sound and whether or not it is acceptable to be dressed as you are.

thou shall remove all street clothing prior to any prayer or worship in the presence of Maîtresse Ambre Jade

Puppy Play 101

July 15, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Fetish, Sessions3 Comments

Puppy play is a true passion of Mine. I own and keep 2 puppies on a regular basis. One in house and one more long distance. I have broken both of them in perfectly and to My satisfaction. This is a long process. It has taken Me a long time to break them in just right. I do not expect their level of obedience with any new puppy.

What is puppy play?

Puppy play is a unique and stimulating representation of the D/s relationship. One individual (the Domme in My case) is the Owner or Trainer, I have also heard the term “Handler”. The other is the puppy or pet. It is a very obvious and satisfying dynamic. Everyone knows their place. It seems very straight forward. The Handler controls the action and behaviour of the pup.

Is puppy play erotic?

Puppy play can manifest itself in many ways. A large number of puppies I speak with, do not feel the need for sexual contact between their Owner and themselves. They feel having the puppy mentality is satisfying enough! The disappearance of their human qualities and characteristics becomes their satisfaction. There is no need for full out sexual contact.

For others, sexual contact can be used as part of training protocols and rewards for good behaviour. This can be particularly effective if you have a puppy that misbehaves frequently and needs to have his behaviour modified.

What props are needed for puppy play?

The truth of the matter is, very few props are actually necessary. Puppy play is more about getting lost in the roleplay (for many it is deeper than a roleplay but more on that in future posts). Personally there are items I like to have with Me at all times when I am training:

Collar, (I take collaring very seriously but for puppy play, the significance is a little different. It is not as intimate as collaring a slave.) This is a great tool to have. It helps bring about the mental headspace of being a puppy. It can easily trigger an immediate immersion into the role of puppy. The respect I normally give to collaring slaves moves to doggy tags instead. Placed on the collar.
Leash, seems rather self explanatory to Me
Toys, in some cases the toys can be sexual as well as typical animal toys, like balls, chew toys, things along those lines. Sometimes the toys would have a sexual undertone, doggy bed one could hump, switch for misbehaviour, items of that nature.
Bowls, for feeding or watering.
Tails, not necessary but I enjoy My puppies having a lovely tail shoved into their human ass.

Glorious moments in puppy play

One of My favourite moments with a new puppy is the inspection. I treat it in a similar fashion would expect from a judge at a dog show. Physique can be important as well as the reaction to various stimuli. I like inspecting all My subs, adding the non vocal and animalistic behaviour of puppy play and the combination is absolutely delicious to Me.

Things to remember

Puppies, slaves and subs all have certain rights. you are, as a puppy, allowed to create a blue print to where and how far the play can go. The use of a safe word is not only acceptable but encouraged. For each puppy, the willingness to participate in a variety of activities can change. I have seen instances where puppies let off steam by humping each other during play time. Be aware of your limitations and find ways to communicate them to your trainer and if in a group setting, a way to show your fellow pups. Some like to play in packs.

More of the subject to come, think about this roleplay and experiment. Many subs find this style of play incredibly appealing.

Bark for Me puppy

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

Difference Between Sacrifice and Tribute

July 7, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Findom

Kneel in devotion! Tribute and Sacrifice

Not everyone makes a distinction between sacrifice and tribute. There is nothing wrong with that but to Me there are some important key differences. Both are signs of devotion to Me. Both make Me very happy with your performance as a submissive. Both can be component of Financial Domination but not necessarily.

What is a Tribute?

A tribute is a bonus, if you will. An added dimension to prove that you are worth your place in the Doctrine of Ambre Jade. To show that you appreciate the time and the effort I put in to the Doctrine, creating a stimulating and ideal place of worship. Tributes are made out of compulsion, that need to make Me happy and pleased with you as an individual slave.

What is a Sacrifice?

When I discuss daily sacrifice, it is the exchange of an everyday luxury for Me. Instead of purchasing some over priced, super sweet bullshit coffee concoction, you take that money and send it to Me. Sacrifice is the great equalizer. Where not everyone is in a position to tribute 500$ a week, everyone can find something they can go without so that they can contribute to Me! It allows Me to see a clear representation of how devoted one truly is. For some a 500$ tribute means nothing to them financially, it never affects their bottom line. For others, the idea of tributing such an amount would cause them financial ruin. Sacrifice allows them to prove they are willing to suffer for My pleasure. It is a greater sign of devotion in many cases.

What about Gifting?

I view gifting as an extension of a tribute. In some cases the more personal the gift the better, it proves that My devoted slave understand the individual (Me) and not just the experience of worship. Don’t get Me wrong, a gift from anyone in any capacity is lovely.

What about FinDomme?

Sacrifice and tribute are both components of financial domination. When I am controlling your wallet you are expected to make sacrifices and tributes as well as gifts. But I also believe that FinDomme should be approached as a contract. That you debt to Me should have a clear amount, a clear beginning and a clear end. The fun lays in between. View My FinDomme Contract.

Kneel for your Déesse

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

“Do what You Want With me” is Not submissive Request

June 27, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom5 Comments

Why is requesting that I “do what I Want with you” not conducive to creating a proper Dominant/ submissive relationship? It seems to make sense, right? I am the Domme, you are the submissive. your body and mind belong to Me. Except they don’t! Not yet. The boundaries of our relationship have not yet been established. I do not know yet if I enjoy your whimper or your pain, your begging or release. These are key components to My enjoying our relationship. I have to know more about you before I know what I want to do with you!

So what is the proper way of approaching a Maîtresse for the first time? you are submissive. you feel your own desires are minimal compared to those of your chosen Mistress. There has to be a way to create a first encounter where you are both powerless and allowing the Maîtresse to do what She wants. There is a simple answer. you tell Her what you enjoy or what you fantasize about. This is not topping from the bottom or anything so simple. Knowing the likes and dislikes of a submissive is important. Voicing your likes to your Mistress prior to the beginning of a session is the only way to ensure that She knows what you are looking for.

It creates a solid foundation. Regardless of how long you and I decide to pursue the D/s relationship. you have to build from somewhere. Yes, of course, there are one offs and sometimes it is more about cumming than it is about worship. But this is about the D/s relationship. This is about creating a potentially long lasting, fulfilling relationship for all parties involved.

Here is the best part. Once you have established your relationship, past the first few encounters and created the proper ebb and flow of a D/s relationship, you can say “Do what You want with me” and you will both have a fantastic experience. The trust has to be present first, you put yourself in My hands completely. This is important! you have to trust Me so completely that by merely asking a tiny task of you, throws you into a submissive frenzy!

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

Time to Explore FemDomme with Ambre Jade

June 24, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom

The time has come for Me to create a site and blog entirely devoted to FemDomme and My more harsh side. While being a HypnoGoddess is a wonderful and tremendously satisfying, I can only devote so much time to creating personalised session over the phone. This limits the amount of time I can spend with each slave. By branching out and creating Niteflirt listings as well as other ways for you to prove your devotion to Me, I will be available for a variety of other types of sessions.

This is all about Me, My wants, My needs and you trying as hard as you can to satisfy them. I have rather eclectic tastes when it comes to My slaves and what I enjoy doing with them. I want this to be mutually satisfying but with My Own satisfaction being at the forefront. I have no intention to listen to someone try and top from the bottom or orchestrate some intricate fantasy of theirs. you are welcome to share your fantasy with Me but should it not be something I enjoy, I will not partake.

Being My slaves involves many things that I plan on outlining here. For starters, protocols. I adore protocols and as I add them, you are expected to follow them, to the letter, without question. I will briefly outline a few and others will pop up and you will be informed as I see fit.

When you approach Me, you will refer to Me as Ambre Jade until such time as we establish a relationship. For example, once we have done a session or have communicate for more than a single email or message. At which point you will refer to Me as “Maîtresses.” Goddess is also an acceptable title as is Master or Mistress but I prefer Maîtresse.

you will upon first talking with Me be frank and clear about your limitations, be they physical or psychological. If you have a blown out knee and I ask you to knee for forty five minutes you will not be happy and I will be unhappy because that action will limit our dealings in the future. So Be Clear, when asked.

you will speak only when spoken to.

Financial sacrifices and tributes are required! I love what I do but no sacrifice is the same without the exchange of money. This is both My work and My pleasure. I deserve to be financially compensated.

I plan on explore that delicious edge of pain and pleasure with many and you will be lucky if I accept you.

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

Guide to Keyholding

June 10, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Domme Thought, Femdom, Sessions7 Comments

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I have an extreme passion for chastity. I love every aspect of keeping my submissives chaste. Being a Keyholder is more than just holding a key in your hands. There are time when it can be a challenge, even a chore but the end result is always fantastic.

What is a Keyholder?

A Keyholder is generally a Domme, Mistress or Master who holds the physical representation of your chastity (the key) on them. The power over the submissive’s orgasm or lack there of, is completely hers. She determines for herself whether or not he cums. For some Dommes, the penis now belongs to her. Access is restricted to her desires and her desires alone. That is not to say holding the key is sufficient enough. There are certain requirements for both the sub and the Domme.

Time

There are certain time requirements for the Keyholder and the chaste individual. I once calculated the amount of time each key I hold represents. It is a significant chunk of my week. Chastity is an active process for me. I like being very involved with my caged toys. As a Keyholder you have to be ready to devote the time and the effort. The longer someone is caged, the needier they become. Some of us thrive on being needy but you have to be prepared for the time that represents (within reason). As someone who is caged, you will find yourself devoting a lot of time to your new status as chaste and a desire to be in your Keyholder’s presence.

Play and Chastity Games

Play and tease are important. Without them, time spent locked can be boring. Boredom does not a good slave make. And let’s be honest, it can be boring for the Keyholder as well. I always find it thrilling when someone is locked for me but I find the experience lacking without some good ole tease and denial. Bringing my slave to the brink of release and then shutting them down. There are limitless possibilities for games and play time. Find the right balance for you and your slave. Experiment, if they are locked long enough, they will love just about anything 😉

Physical Check Ins

It is important, and can even be used as a game, to do regular physical check ins. There are some cages might fit poorly or need to be adjusted over time. I love physical inspections, it can add a little spice and play to the experience. Cleaning, air time, making sure there are no marks or chaffing. This is part of you duties as a Keyholder, they are locked for you, you should watch for signs of things not working well.

Emotional Check Ins

Watching for signs is more than just physical sign of trauma or damage. You have to do some emotional checking. This is especially true with long term chastity. There can be some extreme emotional reactions that come up, sometimes with little warning. These should be dealt with, discussed and addressed. The caged slave is responsible for keeping their Keyholder informed. The Keyholder is responsible for creating a safe space where the slave may bring these feelings up. For me, I prefer scheduling check ins. It gives a window where a slave can stop being a slave for a short time and express themselves without prejudice. This is extremely important for those who are new to being submissive or new to chastity. The routine creates a safe place.

Obviously this list is not complete and there are many places where one can add their own twists. Remember that communication is key, and that Keyholding is more than just the physical manipulation of their key.

Additional Reading

Two blogs I have been thoroughly enjoying:

Denying Tumper

Monkey in a Cage

Forum:

Chastity Forum

BDSM Check In

May 23, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom

After being out of BDSM circles and My Own circles for so long (due to personal matters), it is important to do a check in. I fucking love check ins. BDSM check ins are especially important to Me. Sexuality is fluid for the majority of people, Myself included, so after a long absence it is important to reassess your goals, wants, needs and everything in between. For Me, My goal of taking over the universe one sub at a time has not changed, the manner in which I hope to accomplish this goal has not changed. I have though, realised that as a Dominant Woman, I have to make Myself more available to those who serve Me and those interested in serving Me and those in between.

My time away from the “scene” has allowed Me to review My Own behaviour and My Own desires. I believe that checking in is one of the many reasons I find anything within the BDSM community appealing. The opportunity to voice new ideas before each session or new partner, is something everyone should take advantage of. I know from My experience that I love when My submissives voice their thoughts or new goals to Me. This is of course assuming the context is right. The middle of a spanking is not the time to voice a desire for needle play when there has been no discussion beforehand.

Hypnosis, as part of My BDSM experience and as My most prominent fetish, is an important example of why check ins are so important. So much can change even after a single session. you may find yourself having thoughts you never knew you truly thought. Or a new fetish could pop up as something you want to try. These topics should be discussed before a session begins. During negotiations. If your current “relationship” does not allow for negotiations then a check in is even more important. Here are some tips for communicating your new desires or new thoughts to your Mistress/Master/Owner as it applies in a paying relationship. I make the distinction only because professional Dominants have little time for bullshit and Their time should be respected (not that lifestyle Dominants do not deserve the same respect but pros may assume you are looking to waste time):

Email or message your Dominant with a request for Their time
Offer to pay for this time (tribute, gift, per minute rate, depending on the Dominant)
Send a subsequent email briefly describing your new goals, or aspirations
Confirm with your Dominant that this is something you would like to try but ultimately it is up to Them if you incorporate it into your sessions

Offering to pay for the time is important. It has 2 main implications a) you care about your Dominant and Their time b) you are serious about trying something new. Let Me show you an example from one of My most devoted slaves:

Goddess,

i find that i would like to change some of our fantasies. Could we please set up some time to talk. i have sent You a gc for Your time should You desire having this talk with me.

x

Goddess,

i understand that you are busy and i thank You for allowing me the pleasure of emailing my request to You. During our fantasy next week could you please add in something about anal. i have been very curious about it but i don’t know where to take it. i know this is not something we normally do. i was thinking after You have me submit to You by kissing Your feet, You might touch on the idea of playing with my ass. i really desire this.

x

Now those messages are the ideal. Obviously things will be different depending on your Dominant or your particular situation but I cannot think of a single Domme that would refuse talking about this via email providing you have made some sort of sacrifice (gift, tribute, etc.).

Well, this started as a personal BDSM check in and took a turn for the better. Remember that communication is key in just about all situations. But pick your moment and be willing to sacrifice for the time you may be using up of your Domme.

À bientôt,

Ambre Jade

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