What are your Erotic Hypnotic Goals?

I have written about erotic hypnotic goals in the past. I think back in 2014? OMG Am I that old now, Jebus…. Anyway, I wanted to revisit the concept. I am and always have been an incredibly goal oriented woman. Every action I take to have a purpose, blatant or not. I don’t need you to know what it is, just know there is always a reason for everything I do.

That being said who establishes these erotic hypnotic goals? Is it you or is it me? A fair question. The answer is both. I like to have discussions with my subjects prior to any erotic hypnosis interactions. The first session tend to be more focused on me and you getting to know each other. How responsive you are? What language you respond to? What ideas or prompts work best for you? Essentially, a first session is like a first date, but more expensive for you.

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Goals and Ownership

I do not have cookie cutter goals for all my subjects. I cannot and do not want to own every one who would like to have a session with me. There are only so many hours to my day, and I am a busy ass woman. That is not to say we cannot work towards goals together. It means that the erotic hypnotic goals we create will be based on moments and time spent together, rather than daily interactions and ownership. Is that the case with everyone? No. I would just like to make it clear that I take ownership, Domming, insert appropriate term very seriously and I cannot have everyone living in a 24h power exchange dynamic with me. I know my limits. The results would be some shitty cookie cutter D/s dynamic where neither of us grow.

Can we play together without ownership? Yes! Can we create and work towards erotic hypnotic goals together? Hell, yes! And in those moments we spend together, there are moments and times where you will feel as though you belong to me.

Creating Erotic Hypnotic Goals Steps:

  1. I have a series of questions I like all new subjects to answer prior to any session. You can use these question for a few purposes. You can see what you want and do not want. And knowledge is power for the hypnotist. I can into this in more detail another time.
  2. Figure out what it is that appeals to you about hypnosis. Is it the letting go? Is it orgasming? Is it submitting to the hypnotist? What is it that makes hypnosis the best tool for the task at hand?
  3. What sort of behaviours do you want to modify? I love conditioning and brain washing and all those delicious morsels of programming. What would you as the subject want to change?

The steps to creating that potential change, should are really up to the hypnotist. Together you should both create a plan and put together your erotic hypnotic goals.

What are some goals you would like to set?

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February Fun and Chaos

So as some of you may have noticed, my presence during February thus far has been lacking. There has been some chaos since late last month. Basically every dimension in my life had some sort of change this month. So, it has been chaotic, and intense while simultaneously being an amazing storm in which to plant my garden of change. (ooo, I am getting all metaphor-y in this)

TLDR: I broke up with my girl, had surgery, am moving, found a new partner and am loving life right now!

We are at the end of the month, and March is going to be amazing and full of content, so I figured I would share some of the upheaval that has been around me.

Beginning of February, I had a surgery, minor, no big deal but everything is nuts when you take blood thinners on the regular so that was fun. I might have to take up needle play as a kink. Let me tell you, I am getting to be very good with a syringe. Surgery, the lead up and the recovery took some time. All went well, my INR is not where it should be, my mother stayed with me for a few days. It was like a little vacation for her which was great.

Prior to the surgery, I broke things off with my partner. They are a multitude of reasons, but really, it came down to the energy just not vibing in a way that was conducive to what I want/need from my relationships. It was hard on her. It was not hard on me, so just to give an idea about the nature of the dynamic. There are no hard feelings on my end, and I don’t mind having this person in my life, but the way it was just didn’t work. And I needed to end things prior to my surgery, so it may have been a little abrupt for her.

So yeah. A bit of a change. I must admit it was a positive change. I couldn’t understand why whenever we played or whenever we hung out I felt like an asshole. (She never made me feel that way, it was internal.) Ultimately, what I learned is that if the dynamic outwardly looks like it works, but you feel uneasy or like something is off, listen to that.

Moving on… speaking of moving… During my recovery, while my mother was with me, I made a decision. After five million years living where here, I will be moving. In May. My current landlords are dickheads and live below me. They were making content creation difficult for me, too noisy apparently… Hypnosis… too noisy… wtf. My typing on my keyboard was a source of much aggression. So I will be moving in May. I am very much so looking forward to it.

Feeling Amazing!

So I don’t know what combination of change has brought this about but I am feeling fucking incredible. I have been in an amazing mood for weeks now. In February, in Canada, in Quebec… this time of year revolves around depression and sugar shacks. I don’t know what is the reason behind it but I have just feeling great.

Also found a new person to play with, I haven’t spoken with them about how much detail I can put here, so let’s just say it is promising 🙂

So that is the end of my February round up. I know I was a little out of character this month with my creations and posting but the world is back to normal, or something similar. I have some amazing things coming out in March, so be on the look out. More details coming soon.

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Trance, Let’s Talk About It

It’s time for us to talk about trance. Erotic and other. Let’s start this off with a little recounting of my activities on Saturday. My usual Saturday activities were on hold for some health shit, all is well, don’t worry! So it left an opening on my Saturday. Wouldn’t you know it, there was going to be a workshop on erotic hypnosis at a local dungeon. I took this as a sign from the universe that I should attend, so I did. This was not like a deep dive into the ultimate tool that I have found hypnosis to be, but rather an introduction, 101 kind of course.

For those of you who don’t know, I love to revisit things. There is something magical about the basics. On occasion, we all get lost in the complexity and more hardcore representations of our kinks, hypnosis is no exception. I would even make an argument that it is easier to lose sight of hypnosis foundations. I will likely touch on this in a later post.

The workshop itself focused mainly on inducing trance. Nothing really beyond the letting go aspect. No suggestions, no fractionation, no NLP, no behaviour mods, nothing like that. After a presentation, we were given the opportunity to induce trance with our partners and other participants. As someone who really does not like having another person near my mind, I consequently and selfishly did not allow others induce trance on me. (I have some issues with control and I have some adverse reactions, stories for another time.) Ever the educator, I really wish I had allowed someone the opportunity. However, I know my current boundaries and am respecting them.


And Now, Where Does Trance Fit In?

Following this workshop, I spent a good amount of time thinking about the activities I perform daily. Looking at which ones are trance adjacent, if not trance themselves. I do a lot of things that can be seen as a form of trance. My morning routine is always the same. My evening routines do vary, regardless there are certain sequences of events that happen repeatedly. I practice martial arts, essentially performing the same series of movements over and over and over and over and over and over…. you get the idea. This is my trance, this is where I let go. Routine.

What aspects of your daily life involve trance? Have you ever stopped to think about it? In this sort of online domain of transactional sexuality we forget that not all experiences need to be sexual or bought. (Not that I am discouraging you from purchasing things, just making a statement of fact!) We have moments of trance regularly, throughout our day, usually completely unaware that we have entered this state of consciousness. Take a few moments and really think about… List the moments where you let go. It can be playing video games, listening to music, anything routine, anything really.

How Can We Harness This Daily Trancing?

I think there are many ways we can use our vanilla trance moments for darker, more nefarious purposes 😉 Using other techniques, we can bring in anything from simple to complex behavioural changes by harnessing these moments. An example, that’s what you really want right?

Let’s say you have a bedtime routine. The same hygiene routine, same procedure every time you prepare for slumber. Add a change to it. Add a new aspect to your routine. Change will happen faster as the process is already established. Every night, I want you stroking for me before bed. You have the loop of me telling you to stroke. Consequently, you play it in your headphones throughout nightly routine. After a while, you will hear the loop, without plaing it. Brushing your teeth will have my thoughts and words dancing in your mind. The power of daily, even vanilla trance provides amazing opportunities for behavioural changes, and modifications of all kinds

Imagine what an experienced Hypnotist could do with such things.

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Erotic Hypnosis and Attention Issues: Best Practice

Do you find that your attention span is shorter than “normal”? Many people with attention span issues are under the erroneous impression that hypnosis, erotic or otherwise will not work for them. Erotic hypnosis does and will work on anyone! Those with attention issues have a multitude of things working in their favour. While the shinny thing in the corner might be distracting, that ability to hyper-focus is an asset when it comes to hypnosis. It’s all about how you use the tool available to you.

Erotic Hypnosis and Attention Issues

That ability to hyper-focus is your greatest gift. It may not seem that way at first. You are easily distracted, however when you manage to train your mind to focus, it will be an incredible asset for you. The challenge is finding the best way to harness it. How do you use your unique mind to create amazing experiences with erotic hypnosis?

Erotic Hypnosis and Attention Issues Best Practice List:

When listening to recordings:

  1. And this one is really important! Regardless of what is said within a file, if you need to twitch or move around a bit, embrace that. I know it goes against the “be very still” mantra that is often used in hypnosis recordings (mine included). However, allowing yourself the chance to stim might be the best way to focus on the words being said.
  2. Listen repeatedly. You have access to recordings for as long as you keep them. Why not use them often? Even if the desired effect is not working the first time, repeated exposure will familiarise you with both the voice and the file itself. Try to listen in a dark room, or staring at a spiral, there is a reason these things are cliched.
  3. Really use your imagination. Those with attention issues have a tendency of being far more imaginative than those with “standard” attention spans. Use the power of your mind to really give in to the scenario. The mind is a very powerful thing. Focusing on details and tiny elements will help you engage more in the experience.
  4. Know that trance is achievable for you and just enjoy the experience. Don’t spend the whole time angry or annoyed that it is taking so long (common response). Just listen and enjoy.
When doing a one on one:
  1. Make sure the hypnotist is aware of your attention issue. This will help them adjust the pacing of the session.
  2. Aim for shorter more intense sessions.
  3. Combine it with other aspects of your sexual desires. For example, edge throughout the entire session (if you have permission)
  4. Try to avoid video sessions. The likelihood of distraction is higher. Focus on voice.
  5. Establish a rapport with the hypnotist beforehand. Be comfortable with who they are. So you are not distracted by mannerisms and tones and cadence.

There are many ways to make the most out of your hypnosis experience. Erotic hypnosis and attention issues do not have to clash. Shorter attention spans do have many up sides, including a more vivid imagination.

What tricks do you have?

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Guided Meditation vs Erotic Hypnosis

Guided meditation is a passion of mine. I have been spending a good chunk of time these last few weeks writing new erotic hypnosis content, and it struck me. I would also love to create some Guided Meditation sessions as well. So I started and I have to say, the results are lovely! A few will be coming out shortly.

Isn’t Guided Meditation and Hypnosis the Same Thing?

In a nut shell, no. They are different. Both create an environment of relaxing. The way I see it, and I suppose, others can, maybe even will, argue with my views but fuck it, I am writing this piece… Guided Meditation is a journey, an adventure for the sake of self exploration and relaxation. Hypnosis can also be a journey, depending on the style, and fosters deep relaxation. Where it differs, erotic hypnosis has an ultimate goal. There is a behavioural change that the hypnotist creates or deepens throughout the session.

This is a wonderful thing. I, myself, delight in creating deeper, more responsive submission from my marrionettes. However, sometimes it is nice to just explore your sexual experiences without change.

Why Wouldn’t you Want Erotic Hypnosis?

Why would someone chose a guided mediation session over an erotic hypnosis session? The answer is fairly simple, at least to me. A guided meditation session will allow you to explore your own sexuality, your own sexual views, kinks, fetishes, etc. Whereas erotic hypnosis is telling you what and how to feel regarding specific sexual experiences. The wording makes it seem like erotic hypnosis is bad, it really is an amazing experience. The manipulation of it is incredibly sexy. That being said, sometimes we just want to relax, and if there is some sexual tension and sensation with that, all the better!

Best Practice:

Combine both erotic hypnosis and guided meditation to create a truly amazing experience. More time with my voice, a better understanding of your own submissive needs, feeling my control… What more could you possibly ask for?

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BDSM Protocol: It’s Important

The importance of BDSM protocol is often overlooked. Protocols and routines are what keep both submissive and Dominant in their proper roles. Not initially, but as familiarity is inevitable, the reliance on protocol becomes more important. As an Individual who is very much about routine, ritual, and protocol, even in my vanilla life, I can think of no other established BDSM practice that deserves more attention of emphasis in any dynamic.

Bringing in Previously Established BDSM Protocol:

Each dynamic between Domme and submissive is different. Every Dominant has their own set of rules and behaviour they desire their submissive to emulate. Is it wrong to bring those into a new dynamic? The answer, as with many things is, “it depends.” Like everything protocols are relative to the person deciding them and the person receiving the commands. Some Mistresses despise having someone else’s protocols in their submissive. From a personal standpoint, I really don’t give a fuck where they come from so long as it is something I want or am willing to compromise on. Protocols bring comfort, so if a sub is new to me, then I give them a little more wiggle room. There are certain protocols that seem to be popular that just do not do it for me.

The Comfort:

There is something about routine that comforts me. I am, without a doubt, not the only person who feels this way. Perhaps mine is more heightened because of all my martial arts training and the importance placed upon ritual. I like to put into place a set of parameters that serve as a demonstration of respect for the other person. You may be my submissive, however I still want to respect you. I cannot understand why people want to own what they do not respect or admire. Maybe that’s just a personal little quirk I have. There are times in play in which it may seem like I don’t respect you, like humiliation scenes and the life. The best thing about protocols, is that following a session, protocols are back in place and act as a reminder of your place.

A Few Examples of BDSM Protocol:

It goes without saying, or perhaps not since I am saying it anyway, that protocol is different depending on the scenario and dynamic. In person is different than virtual. Expectations are different. I do however have some universal protocol regardless of how you and I are interacting. Let’s look at a few:

  • A greeting is essential, virtually this can be anything from a hello to bow. In person, my favourite is a peck on the hand or foot.
  • This goes with greeting a little, if you are sending me an email, or DM and expect a reply, send a tribute. I will expand on that in a later post. There is a reason for it, not from a place of greed but of mutual respect.
  • Nudity. When in a scene or approaching the time for a scene, I expect you to be nude. This goes for virtual as well, whenever possible. (I have a thing for CFNm.)
  • Establish boundaries, limits and such before a session takes place. This is the same whether it is virtual or in person. (Since I also have a bit of an interrogation fetish, this works well.)
  • Once a scene or session has started, make no demands! This is not your place and this is definitely not the time. Exception, red or black cards and check ins. Honestly, I will end the session. This shit just sits poorly with me.
  • All apologies are done while kneeling.

There are many others and some that are not centred around BDSM. I have some that are very important to me personally, like when you leave a space, you make sure it is in the same condition as it was when you got there or better. Or when you get up from your seat, push your bloody chair in. Things that make me nuts… Anyway, these are other random things.

How Do you Establish Protocol?

Communicate… say it with me… Communicate!

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Fitness as Worship

Have you ever thought about using fitness as a form of worship? It is not part of the usual professional Femdom dynamic. It is however, a beautiful way to worship. To work your body knowing that this will please your Domme. To sacrifice your time and comfort for your owner is a luxury. You can delight in the knowledge that this will improve your physical wellness.

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How To Use Fitness as Worship

Just imagine that every single time, every set, every rep becomes a manifestation of your devotion. Every improvement of your physical well being is a direct result of being controlled. Now, how fucking hot is that? That you can devote a part of your vanilla existence to someone is an amazing experience. You have the opportunity to worship through action. To do more than stroke your dick and succumb to a moment of ecstasy, to change your existence for the better.

Harness Fitness as Worship

As you perform what ever fitness routine you may have, be it cardio, resistance or anything else, imagine doing those for your Domme. Every bead of sweat, a physical representation of your devotion and desire. Feel yourself pushing your body and making the sacrifice for your Femdom. Embrace the aches and pains, feel yourself giving in to my control while you make yourself better.

Ideas for Fitness

If you are uncertain how to make this happen, how to start a fitness routine, I can create a routine for you. You can also follow and obey my Healthy Femdom Twitter account. Every morning you are given a task to perform. This is a great jumping off point if you are still looking for your place.

The January Healthy Living Challenge is another option. This month we are focused on your steps. The individual with the highest daily average throughout the month, will receive a personalised, one of a kind video from me.

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How Being Accountable to a Femdom is Effective

Being accountable to a Femdom is a creative way to make sure you manage to reach your goals. With the upcoming change in year and the concurrent “new Year, New Me” thing that happens, it is important that you find a way to be properly held accountable. I do believe that motivation should be intrinsic however, as human beings sometimes we need a little help. This is where Femdom comes in.

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What does it mean to be accountable to a Femdom?

The accountability to a Domme is two fold. On the one hand, your desire to please and satisfy your Mistress will keep you on task. The other side of the coin is that disappointing your Mistress will result in punishment. The severity of said punishment varies depending on the transgression.

The added extrinsic motivation being submissive provides means that change can come faster than it would otherwise. Imagine if your sexual gratification is dependent on whether or not you accomplish your tasks for the day… Combine that with the knowledge that someone superior to you is now invested in your success. Being accountable to a Femdom will bring you more satisfaction than simply managing your goal.

Accountable to a Femdom as a manifestation of TPE.

I am very much into TPE or Total Power Exchange. Using a Femdom as a life-coach or accountability partner works really well in terms of power exchange. I decide how you spend your time. I tell you what tasks deserve more attention than others. This pleases me. I enjoy deciding which tasks and which smaller goals deserve attention. By reaching those goals, I am happy and in turn, you will be rewarded. In contrast, if you fail I can enjoy myself knowing you will make it up to me.

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Welcome to LoyalFans AmbreJade

As of December I will be actively posting, creating, engaging and all those delightful things on my new LoyalFans account. I am incredibly grateful that my friends encouraged me to do this and I love the platform. There are so many wonderful ways to control you and for me to play with you.

I will be exclusively launching Dynamics of Love, my podcast with puppy, on there. It will no longer be available on the website, or wherever else you listen to your podcasts. As of this moment it will be monthly but the goal is to have bi-weekly releases.

New content and creations will be posted on LoyalFans first before anywhere else. You can see release announcements on my timeline and check out the video store. As of this post, there is no audio store yet, but have no fear, this will not stop you from seeing new audio files. The bonus is that it encourages me to create more visual content as well.

Through the site we can easily set up phone conversations, with or without cam. Live shows, easy messaging. The messaging is my favourite feature by far. I love to interact with people there, sharing pics and audio clips, or video.

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How does it work?

It is similar to most social media platforms in that you can interact with people, post on timelines, love posts, etc. You can also release exclusive content, sell content, do live shows, those sort of things.

There are three tiers to every timeline.

  1. Public posts
  2. Follower posts
  3. Subscriber posts

Public posts are available for everyone, with or without an account. This is free.

Follower posts are post that are exclusively available for followers and/or subscribers. This is also free, however it requires an account.

Subscriber posts are posts (content) available only to those that subscribe. This is not free, there are monthly fees to view these posts.

So what will subscribing to Me on LoyalFans offer you?

Through my LoyalFans, subscribers will receive the following:

  • Exclusive content (or content that would otherwise be ptv)
  • Deeply Discounted messaging rates
  • Discounts in my store
  • Video/Audio recounting of my blog posts (like this one)
  • Dynamics of Love podcast (also available to followers)
  • And more

My LoyalFans followers will get:

  • Dynamics of Love podcast
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Let’s Play Catch Up

It’s been more than a few years since we last spoke, other than my podcast announcement last week. So let’s play catch up. It seems pretty insane to me that my last post was so long ago. A lot has happened during that time, and a lot of sameness, I suppose. The question remains, where to begin… I am guessing some sort of order will come together as I write.

So let’s start with the most apparent aspect of the catch up, if you are reading this. I have amalgamated the majority of my content. Up until recently, everything was separated via various sub-domains or even completely off site places. So yay, we checked off that box!

So now that I have played catch up with my sites, does that mean I will be back to taking calls? In all honesty, I am still undecided. There are aspects I miss, aspects I love, and aspect I have to deal with and obviously, aspect I hate about returning to phone domination and hypnosis. I am really unsure. For the time being, I have many fingers in many pies and it sometimes threatens to get very messy. So as I tell my submissives, do not promise anything you cannot follow through with. Especially in heated moments. So I will continue with my book and continue blogging here. If I decide to add in more, well I will 🙂

What is left to catch up on?

A few things, I have been working my ass off as a personal trainer, specialising in programs based in martial arts training. And a variety of group fitness classes. It has been a very rewarding and exciting venture. Unfortunately, due to COVID restrictions in Montreal, I am not really in a position to work. Which is probably why I am finding time to do some house keeping on The Ambre Jade Empire. Plus my now incredible web design skills!

My son is now an adult, so no more homeschooling for me!!! So much freedom suddenly. Not that I have been able to enjoy it… so here is the shitty thing:

I had to have yet another open heart surgery, it’s all good, I am fine now. However my bioprosthetic valve was not strong enough to contain all my awesomeness, so there was a second surgery where it was replaced with a mechanical one. So now I tick. It’s been interesting. Recovery has been and continues to be long, however I am optimistic things will be “normal” again at some point.

So how are you? What have you been up to over the last, how long has it been? I am actually going to have to check, because I have no idea. There was one post three years ago, but it was me listing why I have not been posting… So I am going to say about 4 years… Time goes by fast.

À bientôt,