Erotic Hypnosis and Attention Issues: Best Practice

Do you find that your attention span is shorter than “normal”? Many people with attention span issues are under the erroneous impression that hypnosis, erotic or otherwise will not work for them. Erotic hypnosis does and will work on anyone! Those with attention issues have a multitude of things working in their favour. While the shinny thing in the corner might be distracting, that ability to hyper-focus is an asset when it comes to hypnosis. It’s all about how you use the tool available to you.

Erotic Hypnosis and Attention Issues

That ability to hyper-focus is your greatest gift. It may not seem that way at first. You are easily distracted, however when you manage to train your mind to focus, it will be an incredible asset for you. The challenge is finding the best way to harness it. How do you use your unique mind to create amazing experiences with erotic hypnosis?

Erotic Hypnosis and Attention Issues Best Practice List:

When listening to recordings:

  1. And this one is really important! Regardless of what is said within a file, if you need to twitch or move around a bit, embrace that. I know it goes against the “be very still” mantra that is often used in hypnosis recordings (mine included). However, allowing yourself the chance to stim might be the best way to focus on the words being said.
  2. Listen repeatedly. You have access to recordings for as long as you keep them. Why not use them often? Even if the desired effect is not working the first time, repeated exposure will familiarise you with both the voice and the file itself. Try to listen in a dark room, or staring at a spiral, there is a reason these things are cliched.
  3. Really use your imagination. Those with attention issues have a tendency of being far more imaginative than those with “standard” attention spans. Use the power of your mind to really give in to the scenario. The mind is a very powerful thing. Focusing on details and tiny elements will help you engage more in the experience.
  4. Know that trance is achievable for you and just enjoy the experience. Don’t spend the whole time angry or annoyed that it is taking so long (common response). Just listen and enjoy.
When doing a one on one:
  1. Make sure the hypnotist is aware of your attention issue. This will help them adjust the pacing of the session.
  2. Aim for shorter more intense sessions.
  3. Combine it with other aspects of your sexual desires. For example, edge throughout the entire session (if you have permission)
  4. Try to avoid video sessions. The likelihood of distraction is higher. Focus on voice.
  5. Establish a rapport with the hypnotist beforehand. Be comfortable with who they are. So you are not distracted by mannerisms and tones and cadence.

There are many ways to make the most out of your hypnosis experience. Erotic hypnosis and attention issues do not have to clash. Shorter attention spans do have many up sides, including a more vivid imagination.

What tricks do you have?

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Femdom Life Coaching Packages are available with Ms Ambre Jade. I also offer one off sessions.

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  • Custom Recorded Guided Meditation or Hypnosis mp3 (depending on the issue)
  • Unlimited texts, answered often




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Guided Meditation vs Erotic Hypnosis

Guided meditation is a passion of mine. I have been spending a good chunk of time these last few weeks writing new erotic hypnosis content, and it struck me. I would also love to create some Guided Meditation sessions as well. So I started and I have to say, the results are lovely! A few will be coming out shortly.

Isn’t Guided Meditation and Hypnosis the Same Thing?

In a nut shell, no. They are different. Both create an environment of relaxing. The way I see it, and I suppose, others can, maybe even will, argue with my views but fuck it, I am writing this piece… Guided Meditation is a journey, an adventure for the sake of self exploration and relaxation. Hypnosis can also be a journey, depending on the style, and fosters deep relaxation. Where it differs, erotic hypnosis has an ultimate goal. There is a behavioural change that the hypnotist creates or deepens throughout the session.

This is a wonderful thing. I, myself, delight in creating deeper, more responsive submission from my marrionettes. However, sometimes it is nice to just explore your sexual experiences without change.

Why Wouldn’t you Want Erotic Hypnosis?

Why would someone chose a guided mediation session over an erotic hypnosis session? The answer is fairly simple, at least to me. A guided meditation session will allow you to explore your own sexuality, your own sexual views, kinks, fetishes, etc. Whereas erotic hypnosis is telling you what and how to feel regarding specific sexual experiences. The wording makes it seem like erotic hypnosis is bad, it really is an amazing experience. The manipulation of it is incredibly sexy. That being said, sometimes we just want to relax, and if there is some sexual tension and sensation with that, all the better!

Best Practice:

Combine both erotic hypnosis and guided meditation to create a truly amazing experience. More time with my voice, a better understanding of your own submissive needs, feeling my control… What more could you possibly ask for?

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BDSM Protocol: It’s Important

The importance of BDSM protocol is often overlooked. Protocols and routines are what keep both submissive and Dominant in their proper roles. Not initially, but as familiarity is inevitable, the reliance on protocol becomes more important. As an Individual who is very much about routine, ritual, and protocol, even in my vanilla life, I can think of no other established BDSM practice that deserves more attention of emphasis in any dynamic.

Bringing in Previously Established BDSM Protocol:

Each dynamic between Domme and submissive is different. Every Dominant has their own set of rules and behaviour they desire their submissive to emulate. Is it wrong to bring those into a new dynamic? The answer, as with many things is, “it depends.” Like everything protocols are relative to the person deciding them and the person receiving the commands. Some Mistresses despise having someone else’s protocols in their submissive. From a personal standpoint, I really don’t give a fuck where they come from so long as it is something I want or am willing to compromise on. Protocols bring comfort, so if a sub is new to me, then I give them a little more wiggle room. There are certain protocols that seem to be popular that just do not do it for me.

The Comfort:

There is something about routine that comforts me. I am, without a doubt, not the only person who feels this way. Perhaps mine is more heightened because of all my martial arts training and the importance placed upon ritual. I like to put into place a set of parameters that serve as a demonstration of respect for the other person. You may be my submissive, however I still want to respect you. I cannot understand why people want to own what they do not respect or admire. Maybe that’s just a personal little quirk I have. There are times in play in which it may seem like I don’t respect you, like humiliation scenes and the life. The best thing about protocols, is that following a session, protocols are back in place and act as a reminder of your place.

A Few Examples of BDSM Protocol:

It goes without saying, or perhaps not since I am saying it anyway, that protocol is different depending on the scenario and dynamic. In person is different than virtual. Expectations are different. I do however have some universal protocol regardless of how you and I are interacting. Let’s look at a few:

  • A greeting is essential, virtually this can be anything from a hello to bow. In person, my favourite is a peck on the hand or foot.
  • This goes with greeting a little, if you are sending me an email, or DM and expect a reply, send a tribute. I will expand on that in a later post. There is a reason for it, not from a place of greed but of mutual respect.
  • Nudity. When in a scene or approaching the time for a scene, I expect you to be nude. This goes for virtual as well, whenever possible. (I have a thing for CFNm.)
  • Establish boundaries, limits and such before a session takes place. This is the same whether it is virtual or in person. (Since I also have a bit of an interrogation fetish, this works well.)
  • Once a scene or session has started, make no demands! This is not your place and this is definitely not the time. Exception, red or black cards and check ins. Honestly, I will end the session. This shit just sits poorly with me.
  • All apologies are done while kneeling.

There are many others and some that are not centred around BDSM. I have some that are very important to me personally, like when you leave a space, you make sure it is in the same condition as it was when you got there or better. Or when you get up from your seat, push your bloody chair in. Things that make me nuts… Anyway, these are other random things.

How Do you Establish Protocol?

Communicate… say it with me… Communicate!

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Fitness as Worship

Have you ever thought about using fitness as a form of worship? It is not part of the usual professional Femdom dynamic. It is however, a beautiful way to worship. To work your body knowing that this will please your Domme. To sacrifice your time and comfort for your owner is a luxury. You can delight in the knowledge that this will improve your physical wellness.

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How To Use Fitness as Worship

Just imagine that every single time, every set, every rep becomes a manifestation of your devotion. Every improvement of your physical well being is a direct result of being controlled. Now, how fucking hot is that? That you can devote a part of your vanilla existence to someone is an amazing experience. You have the opportunity to worship through action. To do more than stroke your dick and succumb to a moment of ecstasy, to change your existence for the better.

Harness Fitness as Worship

As you perform what ever fitness routine you may have, be it cardio, resistance or anything else, imagine doing those for your Domme. Every bead of sweat, a physical representation of your devotion and desire. Feel yourself pushing your body and making the sacrifice for your Femdom. Embrace the aches and pains, feel yourself giving in to my control while you make yourself better.

Ideas for Fitness

If you are uncertain how to make this happen, how to start a fitness routine, I can create a routine for you. You can also follow and obey my Healthy Femdom Twitter account. Every morning you are given a task to perform. This is a great jumping off point if you are still looking for your place.

The January Healthy Living Challenge is another option. This month we are focused on your steps. The individual with the highest daily average throughout the month, will receive a personalised, one of a kind video from me.

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How Being Accountable to a Femdom is Effective

Being accountable to a Femdom is a creative way to make sure you manage to reach your goals. With the upcoming change in year and the concurrent “new Year, New Me” thing that happens, it is important that you find a way to be properly held accountable. I do believe that motivation should be intrinsic however, as human beings sometimes we need a little help. This is where Femdom comes in.

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What does it mean to be accountable to a Femdom?

The accountability to a Domme is two fold. On the one hand, your desire to please and satisfy your Mistress will keep you on task. The other side of the coin is that disappointing your Mistress will result in punishment. The severity of said punishment varies depending on the transgression.

The added extrinsic motivation being submissive provides means that change can come faster than it would otherwise. Imagine if your sexual gratification is dependent on whether or not you accomplish your tasks for the day… Combine that with the knowledge that someone superior to you is now invested in your success. Being accountable to a Femdom will bring you more satisfaction than simply managing your goal.

Accountable to a Femdom as a manifestation of TPE.

I am very much into TPE or Total Power Exchange. Using a Femdom as a life-coach or accountability partner works really well in terms of power exchange. I decide how you spend your time. I tell you what tasks deserve more attention than others. This pleases me. I enjoy deciding which tasks and which smaller goals deserve attention. By reaching those goals, I am happy and in turn, you will be rewarded. In contrast, if you fail I can enjoy myself knowing you will make it up to me.

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Doormat or Submissive; What Power Exchange is Not

Power exchange is not about an individual becoming a doormat. As a submissive, you do have the ability to both refuse and negotiate how sessions will come to being. This idea that by becoming a submissive or even just identifying as a submissive means you have no rights, no say in what happens to you, is flawed. I genuinely believe that this idea that power exchange means the submissive should be doormat in order to be a “proper” submissive, grew from the need to control women’s bodies. As those of you who are part of the BDSM community, Dommes are few and far between. (One of the reasons many of us charge for our services, supply and demand, but I digress…) Women are often on the more submissive side of the power exchange.

Historically, and in the current state of things, women’s bodies are viewed as vessel for pleasure. Our purpose is purely to please our male counterparts. Our bodies are not always ours to control. Look at reproductive rights, access to contraception, porn! The concept of our bodies not being ours is not something new and it is deeply engrained into our minds as well as the minds of men. Not all obviously, I am doing my generalization thing.

Power Exchange Discussion with Ambre JadeSo how does this control of the female body relate to power exchange? As women make up the majority of submissives and the popularity of books and films, various media depicting women as the submissive will prove, the act of submission has taken on the idea of your body no longer being yours! “A real submissive would never say no to this!” “Safewords are for pussies!” (There will be a rant about that term at a later date.) Women have been treated as doormats and expect to be treated as such. A submissive (a feminine role) should be treated and expect to be treated as a doormat.

This entire view point is flawed and wrong. Doormats, while they do exist within the BDSM community, chose to be that way. In a power exchange, there is no real exchange if one is in fact a doormat. Because they themselves do not see or desire any power. A submissive has power. They decided to give it to another being for a period of time, but at the end of the session, or within designated spaces, they can take their power back.

It irks me that so many people believe that being a doormat is part of being submissive. The two have nothing to do with one another. BDSM is about trust, knowing you are giving your power to someone by choice. Someone submitting to you is a gift, not a right.

If, as a Domme, I expect doormat behaviour… because let’s face it, sometimes it is fun when your every whim is obeyed and you can do whatever you want to your submissive, then we discuss the expectation beforehand. I insist on clear, concise limits from my submissive before we session. I tailor my session accordingly. This is what makes me deserving of the gift of your submission. This is what all Dommes should reflect upon… in the power exchange, do I deserve this gift!

I have a feeling the idea of the doormat as a submissive was created to minimise the incidence of topping from the bottom. I can’t be sure, more research will have to be done.

What preconceived notions about BDSM or submission bother you?

À bientôt,

Ambre Jade

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(This piece was originally going to outline behavioural differences but as I wrote and researched, I found myself changing the tone of the entire piece.)

Budgeting For Findom Slaves, Domme Advice

Over the last few weeks, there have been three incidents in which I create a budget for a Findom slave. Some people seem to believe that budgeting for findom slaves takes away some of the fun, that by capping what you can give, or rather what you should give takes away from the experience. From a personal standpoint, I have never found it so. I have always enjoyed creating budgets, pinching pennies, finding creative solutions, things like that. I have primarily created such plans for those who worship me, but on a few occasions there have been requests from individuals (slaves) who serve another.

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Budgeting for Findom slavesThese slaves, though for me, I look upon them as individuals seeing as they serve another, tend to be looking for an impartial look at their contributions to their Goddess’ lifestyle without living out of a cardboard box. As sexy as the fantasy of breaking financially, the reality is not so pleasant. Sure, an accountant would be best but do you desire admitting to your accountant that this is your fetish? Do you want to have to explain the who, what, where, when, why s of your financial domination fetish? Finding someone who both understands your fetish and is excellent with numbers would be a perfect compromise. You could also speak with your Goddess, but not everyone wants to admit there are limitations on their spending or it is just not something that is part of their findom experience. Also, let’s be honest, Findoms (and there are many, many exceptions to this prejudice) are not very well known for their benevolence. Sometimes you need an outside voice that understands and is willing to help.

Budgeting for Findom slaves that Serve Me

An outside voice is not the motivation when you serve me. I am the only voice. The motivation comes from a desire to give more, not just money but also more information. The creation of a budget requires a large amount of information to the shared with me. I have an understanding of how you spend and what you spend it on. I can see and judge your priorities. This sharing of information, under the right conditions can be incredibly erotic. Information is power and knowing your financial situation is more information for me 🙂

I want Ambre Jade to help me with my Findom budget!

Naturally you can see how budgeting for Findom slaves would be beneficial to myself and to you, as the slave. How do you make that a reality? There are a few choices:

  • Call my Lifestyle Line on Niteflirt, I will get all the information I need from you and subsequently send you a delightful spreadsheet
  • Call my toll free (mention it is for budgeting, it is cheaper than hypnosis)
  • Email me and enclose a 50$ tribute via giftrocket.

Be on the look out for more budget tips, including how to make more money for your Goddess.

Have fun with your budget planning!

À bientôt,

Ambre Jade

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Femdom Life Coaching: A holistic approach to Female Domination

My approach to Female Domination has always been very holistic. I strive to impact not just your sexuality but other aspects of your existence as well. Femdom Life Coaching is the best term to describe My intentions. The creation of a plan for slaves and submissives whether they are proponents of My doctrine or not. The idea is that your devotion to Female Domination should have an influence in your every day life. We are not always prepared to serve in a holistic fashion. There is a focus on sex, and orgasms, and kink distractions. But Femdom is about more than that for many. It should be a way of life, a way of being. Life coaching is about being in the present, about influencing your present to attain a specific goal. Who better to help you on that journey than a Domme? Femdom Life Coaching creates an environment where both your sexual self and your being can grow.

Femdom Life Coaching can include:

  • Exploration of new fetishes
  • Finding ways to express your devotion without compromising current relationships
  • Creating a daily routine that works and you can stick to
  • Learning to approach Dommes
  • Learning to work with the right Domme
  • Finding your hang ups with complete devotion
  • Coming to terms with your reality
  • Fitness and healthy habits
  • Financial budgeting and Domination
  • Homework
  • Self reflection
  • the list goes on…

The possibilities are truly endless. To celebrate My newest approach to Femdom and embracing Femdom Life Coaching, I will be creating a twelve week program for those wanting to New Year on the right foot.

Femdom Life Coaching sessions are different from Femdom sessions in that they are not focused on you pleasing Me. This is about you learning to find the right ways to please a Domme that work well for both parties. These sessions can be done via phone, text, or cam.

My goal is to be a benevolent force within your existence. Someone who can both dominate and help simultaneously to create an atmosphere in which you can flourish as a submissive, slave or other.

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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Emotional Fluctuations

Having just come out of a rather turbulent emotional roller-coaster, and its effects still clear in My mind, I decide to go over some of the emotional fluctuations that can potentially occur when you submit to erotic hypnosis. Like anything, there are various levels of submission and you might find that you are not as emotionally impacted as others. For this post, I am making a distinction between submission for a session and submission to a Goddess or Domme. Both are extremely powerful and both have different effects.

Emotional fluctuations can vary from one person to the next, and one session to the next. Emotional fluctuations can be different depending on who you are submitting to, or the nature of the sessions. We live in a world where emotional fluctuations are generally seen as negative. I rarely, if ever, see an emotional response as a negative, including My Own emotions. I could go on about emotions forever, but right now we are focusing on the emotional fluctuations that can happen during erotic hypnosis sessions. This list is by no means, complete. There are an almost infinite number of possible emotional responses. The intensity can vary from person to person, experience to experience, day to day.

Top Five Emotional Fluctuations During Erotic Hypnosis

  1. Lust to Love
  2. Desire to Resentment
  3. Love to Devotion
  4. submission to slavery
  5. Fear to Eroticism

1. Lust to Love:

Erotic hypnosis almost by its very nature is about lust. Sexual energy is high. Lust for both the experience and the Domme. Over time (sometimes through a single session) that lust evolves to love. True love? Not likely but love none the less. Where once you may have objectified your Goddess, it is replaced by a new found respect and care for Her on a deeper level than you were expecting. On a side note, this emotional fluctuation can occur even before a session. This is easily the most common fluctuation. I always find it interesting to watch this occur between subject and HypnoDomme. Even when I am not involved and watching from the outside.

This is one of the emotional fluctuations that rarely revert back. Chances are you will always love Her. It may lessen in intensity, or you may come to see it as “two ships passing in the night” but the love will always be there in some form or another.

2. Desire to Resentment:

I struggled with the decision to add this emotional fluctuation. It is rather negative but with the right Domme, such emotional changes will be perceived before they become an issue or She will use this change to plant the seeds for further transformation. There are moments when a submissive may find themselves resenting their Goddess. Not for something She has said or done, but rather the level of control She has over their existence. I see this as a natural progression to devotion. Resentment shows that there is an understanding as to how intense the HypnoDomme-subject relationship can actually be. Do not feel discouraged either as the subject or the Domme when this fluctuation occurs.

This is an example of an emotional fluctuation that must be an evolution of the relationship. It ends in one of two ways. 1) The resentment is dispelled as the subject accepts the control She has over them. 2) The relationship ends. This is by no means a reflection of the Hypnotist’s skill but rather a manifestation of how far the subject was willing to let the relationship go. It could be that the subject was not yet at the point in their life where this intensity was an acceptable part of their life.

3. Love to Devotion:

This transformation is My favourite. This is when a subject transcends love. Devotion is a different, deeper level of love. If you have read My Domme as a Leader piece, you may understand more of what I mean. This is when other emotional responses start to dissipate. The biggest one I notice, is jealousy. Can you really be devoted to someone if you spend more time being jealous than devoted? No, you can’t. This is where you start to see yourself as an extension of your Goddess and Her experiences. When Her happiness is truly your happiness. Many claim to be at this juncture in their relationships but they are still a little shy of the truest expression of devotion, more on that another time.

4. submissive to slave:

One of the more subtle of the emotional fluctuations, a transformation from submissive to slave, at least as per My definition. Not everyone will agree that this is an emotional change but rather a change in lifestyle choice. While I agree to a certain extent, there are emotions that are present in a submissive that are not part of the slave interaction and vise versa. A slave is a complete loss of the self, you belong, you are owned. There are a multitude of emotional transitions there. Those who have witnessed this change will know what I mean.

5. Fear to Eroticism:

I have spent quite some time describing this emotional fluctuation, so I won’t get too much into it. But as you can imagine this is an intense emotional fluctuation that is undervalued.

There are many more emotional fluctuations, I am sure you have experienced some that are not mentioned here. Share in the comments or privately.

À bientôt,

Goddess Ambre Jade