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Author: Ms Ambre Jade
How to Spank Over the Phone
September’s #FOTM wrapping up and I finally get around to talking about how to Spank over the Phone! Well I talk a little about it 🙂 I randomly decided to give you the luxury of hearing My voice as I am not really in the mood to write! So enjoy the gift of listening to Me!
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Pick a player, they are both the same, depending on your browser you might to pick one of the other. Also you can download it clicking the downward arrow beside the first!
À bientôt,
Maîtresse Ambre Jade
1 888-726-2447
PS Yes, I could have edited things out but I didn’t feel like it. My puppy was making Me laugh while I was recording!
Domme Dating
So those of you who know me well, or even a little, you are probably aware that dating, really not my thing. In fact, I cannot remember the last time I was actually on a date. I know it seems weird for someone who turned 30 this year to not remember ever dating. It is a rare thing. I tend to not really be involved in relationships that are not 24/7 D/s relationships. I have decided though that maybe it is time. Maybe it is time for me to enter this strange land realm of online dating. My current relationships are absolutely lovely and I treasure each one. But sometimes, every now and then I think it would be nice to sit and have a meal with an equal, at least a temporary equal. They can go back to rubbing my feet after a meal. 😉
I suppose I am treating this as a social experiment of sorts. Dating and especially online dating seem so incompatible with My current BDSM goals. My main issue is that though so many of my subs are either clients, and yes I still consider you mine even if you pay me for the luxury, or they have no interest (or I have no interest) in actually sharing a life together beyond a secluded weekend or evening of BDSM bliss basically beyond anything on a full time basis. It is a bit of a challenge for me to try and meld all my goals together. I would like to find someone with whom I can share a life with and also establish a well grounded FLR.
So why would I look in the vanilla world? Somewhere like online dating? Well I am not exclusively looking there, I will also be checking out other avenues. The problem with me and meeting people is well basically in very broad terms, I hate most people. Talking online first allows me the opportunity to not hate them immediately and also to get to know someone before first meeting. I am a control freak. I like to know as many details as I possibly can before going out and exploring things! Plus I am really really fucking demanding!!! There are a great many things I am not willing to compromise on.
Qualities of My Ideal Partner
- Switch or sub
- A firm believer in FLR and FLH, where I am the Matriarch, since in all honesty the gender of my ideal partner could be anything!
- Open to poly relationships, I have several relationships that I will just not give up
- No qualms with my job
- Looking for something long-term
- The ability to communicate openly or is willing to work on communicating openly
- No more kids!!!
See, I am not that demanding! I just have a few things that need to be clear from the beginning! Wouldn’t it be nice if everyone was so clear about what they wanted?
Updates soon I hope 😉
À bientôt,
AJ
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Embracing Being A BBW Goddess
Throughout all My experiences there is no message clearly than a Woman’s need to embrace who She is. For Me, this means embracing being a BBW Goddess. I recently received some not so constructive criticism from an anonymous source. their main critique: The size of My ass! Well, yeah it’s big! I would even go so far as to say it is large! I mean look it! As large as it is, look at the shape. Round, strong, tight for all its size! Perfection is not just what societal norms have you believe. Perfect comes from being who you are.
I love My body, I love being a BBW Goddess! I feel none of the shame this man (or woman, as it was anonymous) thinks I should! I work hard on My body. I work out several times a week, I eat well, mostly organic and rarely meat. I take care of My Goddess shaped vessel! If it makes you uncomfortable that I do not fit in a size 3 then by all means, no one is asking you to worship Me, no one is forcing you to devote your existence to Me. That is a choice. I have followers, I do not need any that criticize some so arbitrary.
I have nothing to justify in My size. I am the way I am. Being a fat, yeah let’s use that word. Fat is not always a negative. I am a fat Woman! I am a big, beautiful Woman. There is nothing to apologise for. There is nothing to explain it. It is the way it. Yes, I could explain all the reasons why I am not a size three. I could list off the reasons My bottom is so big. But why should I? Why does there need to be a reason? I am a BBW Goddess. I am the way the universe made Me. I am gorgeous, I am Dominant and I do not care that some coward is upset about My ass being fat. I am proud of it! I am pleased with it! I treat My body like the temple it is and you should do the same!
À bientôt,
Maîtresse Ambre Jade
1 888 726-2447
Knowing Your Hypnotic Goals
It’s incredibly important that you know your hypnotic goals. I know hypnosis is all about a complete release of control and power BUT you should have a goal in mind. Check out My Beginner’s Guide to Hypnosis page for a bit more information on starting your journey into erotic hypnosis. So what are hypnotic goals? What does that really mean? Everyone has different ideas about hypnosis, how it should be presented, what it means, there is a huge list of variations, which is one of the most delightful things about hypnosis but also one of the most tedious as a HypnoDomme when dealing with a new subject.
With every new subject who calls Me, I ask a series of questions. These are also listed on the guide. The most important question
What is your goal for this and future sessions?
It is a simple enough question but can be incredibly difficult to answer. Which is completely understandable but it is something that should always be addressed! your hypnotic goals are can be fluid and change depending on the intensity of our relationship and the changes to your own sexual desires. Just like sexuality is fluid, erotic hypnosis’ fluidity makes it easily adaptable to any changes to your own sexual evolution. The problem is, hypnotists, regardless of how masterful, are not mind readers! We are not aware of those changes. The evolution. Sometimes we cause the evolution and changes but that implies a relationship. Not something that can be established within the first session.
Brainstorming your Hypnotic Goals
Stream of consciousness writing tends to be My go to when people are looking for their hypnotic goals. It opens up so many possible outcomes and maybe even some hidden depths to your desires. It is a good idea to have some sort of direction to start from. My suggestion to most people starting out is answer this: Do you want to cum? Whether you are allowed to or not, whether you will or not is something completely separate. Do you want to cum? Don’t answer is by simply saying, if My Goddess so desires. your Goddess is not there while you are writing. Just think about it and be honest with yourself. Do you want to cum? This is not a hypnotic goal but rather a stepping stone to finding your hypnotic goals. The answer to that question when written down will allow you to brainstorm your goals.
Yes, i want to cum!
- Is an orgasm the main focus of your hypnotic goals?
- Is the act of relinquishing your power over what prompts you to want to orgasm?
- Do you want to be teased toward orgams?
- Do you want to be commanded to orgasm?
- etc
you can easily see where that line of questioning is going! Come up with some more questions or thoughts to write down as part of your hypnotic goals.
No, i don’t want to cum!
- Do you want to be teased?
- Do you want your arousal to be completely ignored?
- Do you find the act of submission erotic enough?
- etc
Again you can see how these questions go. And you can see how answering the question: Do you want to cum? can bring about a multitude of responses and direction! Also it is a good point to note that it is up to the Hypnotist as to whether or not you orgasm!
So now that we have a starting point, write it down. See where your thoughts bring you! When do you know you have hit the end? When do you know you have found your hypnotic goals? The truth is you never do. As previously stated, sexuality is fluid and evolves. I very often tell My subjects to re-evaluate their hypnotic goals from time to time. See what has changed, what has remained the same.
Examples of Hypnotic Goals:
We talked about finding them, but what are hypnotic goals really? Are they an end result? A step towards ultimate submission? Because of the uniqueness of each individual, no one can really say for certain, there is no clear definition. And sometimes an example is worth a thousand explanations. (Yes I know that is pictures and words but I think the same rules apply.)
- Cock control, allowing my Goddess to completely control My desire.
- Tease and denial
- Grooming to be a submissive
- Exploring a fetish
- Feeling what it would be like to be a Woman
- Deep trance
- Role plays, therapist, teacher, etc
- many, many more
The main thing to remember is you have some idea what your hypnotic goals will be! Even if you only have a vague idea or a bunch general hypnotic goals. So get to writing and communicating! How do you find your hypnotic goals? How have they evolved over time and within different relationships?
À bientôt,
Ambre Jade
1 888 726-2447
I’m a Bitch
It’s true, I am a bitch! I like things the way I like them. I like when things run the way they should. I like when you do as you are told. It is a problem I have. Just because I am a Domme does not mean I have to dominate every thing. But I try. Control freak I guess you could say. I do not do it on purpose. I do not get angry on purpose. It just comes out that way.
Okay some explanation. Here is a brief description of the type of person I am. I am not what most people expect. I am a bitch without meaning to be. That is when I am at my bitchiest, I swear. So here is the most important thing you need to know about me:
I get angry, like fucking pissed at the drop of a hat. If you misbehave, forget something, piss me off somehow, I get MAD! Like seeing red mad. I would much prefer to end the conversation before I get into an anger loop of doom. The thing to remember though, the most important bit, is once I am finished being angry, it is over. In my mind, what ever happened is now finished. I dealt with it. I may have gotten angry and used inappropriate language and maybe stomped off or hung up. But when all is said and done I am finished! The reason I am angry is usually quite clear.
And though I am seeing red if you ask me what is wrong, why I am angry, I will have a clear response. Sometimes, I am angry at myself, sometimes I am angry at you. Shit happens.
What you need to take home about this confession of anger:
Do not expect a scene. If you are late to our meeting, something simple right? Shit happens! I totally get it but I will be angry. I do not and nor should any other person play any games, scenes, or whatever term you want to use with any should of power exchange. Look it is just not healthy for either of us. My emotional check-ins are super important to me. My short fuse is part of who I am. That is part of what you need to learn to deal with when playing with me. It is entirely possible that shit will get cancelled.
Now I sound like an insane, emotionally unstable, sociopath. I’m not. I just not in a place right now where I ignore my emotions. I prefer to be clear about what I am feeling. Yeah, it is not fair that we have to cut our session short because you made other plans, well forget about today’s session. Because I am already mad about you making other plans. And yeah, I could force you to stay, force you to decide between me and whatever else you have going on halfway through our session but that is not fair on anyone. Least of all you. You are already in a vulnerable position, I could easily abuse that. Yeah I like to see you cry sometimes, and I like draining you of your power but not in an abusive manner. So when I say not tonight, listen to me.
I might be a bitch, but at least I am self aware.
À bientôt,
Ambre Jade
Cock Hungry Bois
I know you don’t want to admit it, to tell the truth about yourself, that you are one of those cock hungry bois. That you close your eyes and dream about shoving a real man’s big dick into your sissy mouth. The fact is though you do! you think about it and your minuscule excuse for a penis tries so hard to get stiff, to grow. It’s a little intimidating isn’t it? Especially while you are watching those big, massive dicks being stroked by their owners. The whole thing just makes Me want to laugh at you. How pathetic and weak you are, dreaming about sucking that which you will never own.
you could not even dream of owning it because in reality you are nothing but a teenie weenie cock hungry boi. Yes, I hear about these bois wishing nothing more than a hard, long, impossibly thick cock being jammed down their throats. Oh to witness such things. To watch you gag and squirm pushing your head down on it for you. you are so pathetic. Forced bi sissies are a special breed aren’t they? At least they know how to entertain. How to put on a good show for Me.
you will confess your cock hungry desires to Me. Cry over how teenie tiny your sad excuse for a dick is. Wishing someone would fill your mouth while the tears stream down your face. Now doesn’t that feel better? Knowing your can entertain Me in some way. Being one of My cock hungry bois! you are already thinking about it, dreaming about it. It is time for you to show Me just how bad you want to be My bitch.
you read, you need to confess it and you need to pay for it. Teenie weenies have no real purpose but to please Me in the only way they can, a show and a tax!
Teenie Weenie Tax:
À bientôt,
Maîtresse Ambre Jade
Fun Ignore Phone Play
I finished such a fun call. My ignore phone line is so fun. Earlier tonight a Girlfriend of Mine and I were hanging out at My place. We needed some disconnect time. She is a Domme as well though not professionally, anyway, She was over. We decided like kick it old school, play some Mario 3. Oh yeah, you read that correctly. We were hanging out at My place, two sexy, fine ass Women, slipping wine and playing games from Our childhood. I turned My lines on, She knows what I do and supports it. Depending on the call She would either leave the room until I was done or partake.
The perfect line rings, My ignore phone line. Oh Goddess did We have so much fun. We were ignoring him of course, hearing his excitement in the background but Our attention was completely focus on the task at hand, beating that bastard icy, slippery Mario level. Finally made that level My bitch and as I did, that boy on the other end of the line (I have no idea what his name is, if he even has one) got so excited he couldn’t help but blow! you boys are so silly! Jerking to Mario video games. I am still fucking laughing! Such a delightful evening. Wine, company, Mario and money… an intoxicating combination.
Now you want some ignore phone play?
Well it is easy to set up. On Niteflirt it is easy. I have a line devoted to ignoring you on the phone. If you are calling My toll free number there is an extra step you need to add, it’s simple. Just an email, stating you will be calling and that you are looking to be ignored. I know it kind of feels like the spontaneity is missing but have no fear. An email with the number you will be calling from and a time frame (even something like “calling in ten” is sufficient). So much fun.
Time to be ignored bitches,
Maîtresse Ambre Jade
888 726-2447
An extra note, My ignore line is usually only available when I am out or doing something fun. Ignoring you while I am blogging or writing bores Me. I like to add a little excitement to it for Me. Makes it more entertaining 😉
Words of the Goddess
Can you ever really be prepared to hear the voice of your Goddess? The Words of the Goddess? To hear Her words and feel Her scripture run through you. I don’t think you can ever really be prepared for such an intense moment. Such a raw and powerful moment when you hear Her thoughts and words form and vibrate through your being.
I am of course, referring to My newest hypnosis project, daily affirmations and words of the Goddess! I am still hard at work creating recordings but as I am writing, creating, giving birth to My hypnotic experiences for you, I am discovering that I have created an absolutely delightful collection of quick, loop-able, devotional creations. These delectable pieces that spring from My mind much like Athena bursting through Her father’s mind, needed to be released. They needed to bring their words and wisdom into being. As such, I had no choice. The Goddess was running through Me, tapping on My mind anxious for the birth of these words.
None of My created passages would be sufficient to create a full file, well yes, I could create one, but I feel drawn toward release short pieces. Creating them in such a masterful way that they may be looped and listened to all day. Or at least before bed. These will become your nightly prayers and your morning devotion to My doctrine. Starting on Sunday, every morning you will wake to a new file being released. Inexpensive enough that all My subjects can enjoy it. Appealing enough to make even the most questioning subject fall to his knees and beg for more, pray for more.
It all begins on Sunday. Become My most devout follower. Pray to your hypnosis Goddess. Let the words of the Goddess, of your Goddess, My words run through you in daily affirmation and devotion.
À bientôt,
Ambre Jade
Electro Play: Keep it current
It’s interesting what a skilled pair of hands, some tape and the right Domme can accomplish. Electro play what a pleasure. I was having a bad day, yeah, it happens to the best of Us. My little boy john got to feel the full effect of an unhappy Ambre Jade. In My defense he built the fucking thing. I just got to play. Now before you dumb asses try building something similar make sure you have the knowledge.
What is Electro Play?
I suppose I should be more clear as to its purpose. As you can see from the multitude of images I have included, there are two rings, one placed at the base and one toward the tip. Each band or ring is attached to a wire which releases electrical stimulation from a battery (there is also a transformer so he was being safe). The voltage and number of pulses were determine by Me. How is this possible, you might be wondering? Well this twisted boy has it connected to a site where I can control and determine it. So through My finger tips, he would squirm, whimper, bend over and cry out in pain.
What a delicious cocktail of sadistic fun. Electro play or playing with electricity is really not for everyone but those of you that can handle the torture will find it a rewarding experience. Those delightful spams running through your otherwise useless dick all for the sake of entertaining Me, pleasing Me, showing Me just how far you are willing to go.
Does it go to eleven?
Sadly My Spinal Tap reference was lost as it did not have an eleven. But it was painful enough without such a high setting. Do you think you can handle some electro play? Can you handle the current rushing through your dick and the pain I rejoice in? Probably not! But that’s alright there are many other ways I can make you whimper!
Kneel for Maîtresse,
Ambre Jade
888 726-2447
Do NOT attempt to build something like this yourself. If you are not familiar with how things work leave them alone. you can easily purchase kits that will produce a similar effect!