When it comes to finding the right Domme, there can be numerous challenges. I am well aware that I am not the right Domme for everyone, and I would not want to be either. That would diminish the relationships I already have. Sure I will do Female Domination calls with you, but that would not necessarily make you Mine. I digress. Finding the right Domme is a huge challenge for many men. There are a ton of reasons, the main one being a FemDomme is like a fucking unicorn hiding in a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow on the top of Everest. Female Dominants are rare within the BDSM community. Well not necessarily rare but there are far fewer Female Dominants than there are male submissives or switches. Looking beyond the fact that this dynamic pleases Me because this automatically puts Me in a position of power even before we are introduced, it is a problem from the other side. For you, the boy, boi, male, sub, subject, puppy, etc. that is finding the right Domme.
I cannot even begin to tell you how stupid boys are when they are trying to pursue a Domme professional or otherwise. As I do both, this allows Me a unique perspective into the ridiculous behaviour of My male followers. Obviously this is a generalization but you will see why in a moment.
How to go about finding the right Domme
First and foremost, be willing to pay for your training. Should you find someone who is not asking for tribute hooray! Yay! Good for you, but how sad that you will never know the luxury of submitting every aspect of your being to another person! A professional, regardless of the medium through which you are trained (ie, phone, text, in person, skype, etc) will know just what buttons to push with minimal (comparatively) effort on your part. It will allow you to explore within a specific relationship dynamic. If while finding the right Domme, you come across the perfect Dominant Mistress who fills all your criteria, do not dismiss Her just because She charges money. Topic for another day. Paying a Mistress is something you will likely have to do at some point in your development as a sub. Why? Because We know We can! We are the unicorns, remember? We hold all the cards. And We all deserve it!
Do NOT try to turn someone into something they are not! I am constantly hearing anecdotes from submissive women who are being berated by men for not domming them. Well, fucker, how come you will not Dom her? Oh because it doesn’t work like that for you? Guess what? It doesn’t work like that for her either. So shut the fuck up and just be friends and shit! Finding the right Domme does imply that She needs to identify as a Dominant or at least a switch. This whole trying to change someone’s sexual preference drives Me insane. It is like telling a gay man he has to fuck Me because I think he is hot.
When finding the right Domme, communication is key. As with just about anything. I go into My fetlife account, read My messages and everyday, several times a day there are people saying how nice it would be for Me to be their Domme. Well no shit!!! Imagine that. I even agree with you, but that does not mean I am going to reply to you. Firstly, you showed no proof that you read My profile. Second, you did not ask a question. Third, your profile is empty and so there is no reason for Me to think you are genuine. This is merely a summary. I will be writing a post about first contact on Domme Thoughts later in the week. On a side note, NO ONE wants to see the pic of your cock, as your profile pic or as an attachment.
The best suggestion I can give you on your journey, this is golden so write this shit down. Before finding the right Domme, know what you are looking for from a Domme. A proper Domme can groom you into what She wants with the right motivation and rapport. But before it gets to that point, know what you are looking for. For example, if you are looking for a Domme that asks very few questions during a session and verbally abuses you all session long, make sure She is into that! Don’t do a session with Someone who expresses a delight in talking and interrogation (ME 馃槈 )!
To Be Continued…
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For some, there is an erotic component to feeling guilty. They find the sensations of guilt and failure something that adds to their sensual experiences. 聽For them, guilt and submission adds a spice, a further deepening to their orgasm, servitude, faith, etc. My puppy, whom I have spoken about numerous times, loves feeling guilty. OK, no he does not but his arousal (My cock, it is Mine, I own it) responds to it like nothing else. I delight in every moment where his guilt becomes overwhelming and then deny him that orgasm he has been waiting over a year for!
Recently I have been doing a LOT of Domme Girlfriend Experience sessions! I find Myself genuinely enjoying these sessions. At first, I thought, fuck no! I don’t do the girlfriend thing in My personal life why would I do it in My professional life? But let Me tell you, the experience has been nothing but rewarding! Both financially and in terms of entertainment! Not every wants a Domme Girlfriend Experience and that is fine, but don’t you want to try it? Doesn’t the idea of a Girlfriend who controls your every moment appeal to you? Of course it does! Plus it is Me! So who wouldn’t want a similar session with Me.
Every FemDomme call is unique. And every Female Dominant you call will have a different approach. My approach has been and always will be one of inquisition. I like knowing you. I like you knowing certain parts of Me. According to the feedback I receive from both callers and submissives, this makes My approach unique. Not that others are not interesting in knowing you, far from. Most of the Dominant Women I know, and socialise with have a similar approach. But I have an interrogation fetish I want as many details from you as I can tease out. I find it incredibly appealing to speak to a total stranger about intimate topics and telling them what to do simultaneously, either for Me or for themselves, all depends on My mood and the rapport.
Chivalry, chauvinism and control, all so different but so similar in many ways. It seems odd that a Woman of My tendencies to demand, command control would want to discuss something as ugly as make chauvinism. It is sadly a reality in the world we live in. Many of the surroundings in which I live My life seem to support and condone chauvinist males and their illusion that a phallus is more powerful than the sheath that controls it. I am not out to change the world, just the environment in which I live. I grow weary of men assuming that My uterus makes Me soft, that My breasts make Me weak, you get the idea!
As a Female Supremacist you would think that chivalry would offend or at least bother Me. It doesn’t. I do not equate it in anyway to chauvinism. Some do. I see it as another set of rules, rituals that can be interpreted as an extension of My control. Doors should be held for Me (I have trouble with this one, you have no idea!), I should be greeted properly even within public view. Chivalry is a concept that can be used to convey respect and an appreciation for Female company. My slaves should all follow such rules. It is also an opportunity for you to worship a Woman without it becoming over sexualised. A set of rules and rituals whose actual purpose is that of control and submission to the Dominant Woman. I love little secrets like that!
A year in chastity! Being chaste long term is not for everyone. In fact, off the top of My head, I can only think of a handful of people that could actually make such a commitment to chastity! It is not an easy experience. And My puppy did make a couple of mistakes in the last three years. But over the last year, I have been incredibly impressed with his devotion! he did however have one orgasm through this year. A single release, that was not sanctioned by Me.
I have a great collection of fantasies! Many of which I like to keep a bit more private, so I will share this interesting fantasy. It is likely to not be a surprise to those of you who know Me. I have a rather intense relationship with