To only serve one Mistress… is that important to you? Is it important to Her? I have been a Dominant Woman for most of My life, went through a switch period, you know how fluid sexuality can be. Anyway, when I first started doing phone domination, back when I was working for phone sex lines, “you can only serve Me” came from My lips on a regular basis, emphasizing each words, each syllable. I wanted to encourage devotion by having them serve one Goddess. At the surface, it makes sense. But that’s all it was, a superficial creation of devotion that was, for all intents and purposes, meaningless.
How can it be meaningless to serve one Mistress?
It is not that having you serve one Mistress that makes it meaningless, it was the manner in which the orders were delivered. It means nothing to serve one Mistress when you are told to do so. Well, not meaningless, but I found, especially in the environment of a phone sex company, this encouraged jealousy, bickering among Women, lies from subs, ultimately it manifests a very negative environment. I want you to contrast being told to worship one Mistress vs it happening organically, as a natural progression of your devotion.
So i should serve one Mistress?
Here’s the thing, you should serve one Mistress if it feels right to you. If you are looking for something specific and are whoring about looking for the right dynamic (there is nothing wrong with that), make sure you are honest about it. An invested Mistress will want you to find the right dynamic that works for you and will allow you to worship Her while you are searching. Well, not every one feels that way. Some Dommes are far more demanding when it comes to who their subs are spending time with. For Me, I encourage people to look beyond just Me.
Why? I want you to find the right person who will have you craving only serving Her, or Me as the case may be. I want My devoted slaves to be devoted to Me because they are, not because I am telling them to be. When I first start phone domination, I was met with a multitude of new challenges mostly due to the medium transition, in person/lifestyle vs phone/online, are different. Especially in the beginning. Bulldozing someone into worshiping Me and Me alone seemed ridiculous.
What happens with submissives that serve more than one?
My subs that serve more than Myself are encouraged to look around, try new people and even get some direction from Me as to whom they should try. Why do I let them? Because if their needs are not being met by Me alone, that will not change, what it will change is their desire to be honest with Me. I want them to feel at ease talking about what they are looking for. Especially when it comes to dating and finding a lifestyle Domme partner. I would be ignoring their desire for a physical relationship with another person solely because what? I don’t like sharing! I have no qualms sharing.
There are submissive people who want you to limit their contact with other Dommes, and there is nothing wrong with that either, but it is not something I am in the habit of doing. When I started adopting My views to one of sharing and honesty, I found that more of My submissives became monogamous and they stuck around longer. Why? Because if you are true to who you are and they are true to who they are, if creates a refuge and place of honesty. The dynamic becomes stronger because as a Domme, I see them deciding to serve one, Me rather than being forced into it. submissives in turn see this attitude as encouraging because it reminds them that you will be there to help them transition to another if that is needed and you are allowing them the choice to serve you and others.
Of course, this is not to say I cannot manipulate the situation so that you only want to serve one 😉
What are your thoughts on serving multiple Dommes or being exclusive? When you are spending time with a Domme as a stepping stone to something else, are you honest about it?
Maîtresse Ambre Jade
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I love Your perspective Maîtresse. I absolutely adore the audio track as well. Sorry to ramble; I blame You for being soooo thought provoking and fascinating 😉
Traditionally, dommes have told me (with a bit a glee I might add…) about what they did when they caught a sub serving another mistress. The question always was “How can you say that I own you completely to six different dommes..?” I think this was a related sentiment with polyamory. The problem (as always) was the douchey guys ruining it for everyone. At the core of the problem was a lack of fidelity.
There seems to be a generational change in attitudes. I notice for more younger dommes/subs with a complete acceptance with a sub who serves multiple dommes. It doesn’t look like the relationship is framed in terms of exclusivity and I don’t hear much tension from any of the younger dommes I know. The same goes for non D/S poly relationships. What matters (IMHO) is what is acceptable to the domme. If You want and demand exclusivity, its up to the sub to communicate their feelings and whether they are capable/willing to serve You exclusively.
Another downside of exclusivity is that it creates dependence in the sub and possibly demand more attention from You. Beware of clinging… Although I can’t have enough domme friends, I prefer to be exclusive in my relationships. This is especially true when it comes to hypno-dominance. There are few experiences as intimate, even sex. Trust is so important to me I would prefer a domme with a speech impediment than one I didn’t safe with. When I served a domme, I found her by chance and fell instantly for her. Weird as it seems “try before you buy(fully commit)” is more palatable to me for a RT, in-the-flesh domme than a hypnodomme. Does this make sense?
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