Fear and Desire

In My experience, fear and desire go hand in hand. What an individual fears is on many occasions something they desire. And vice versa. As you may have noticed this week I am focusing on fear, as I think it is an important part of your experience with a Domme. Fear plays a massive part on how we react to stimuli, how we perceive danger vs pleasure. So why would it not play a huge part in our desires? Our desires, our deep desires, the ones we do not like to talk about, often come from a place of fear. Fear and desire go together. They create a delicious ebb and flow between emotions, reactions and submission.

Fear and Desire in Fantasy Life

In our fantasies, in our imaginations we have the ability to create any scenario and the fear we feel, is less “real” making it safe to explore without worrying about the consequences. Think about it for a moment. If you reflect enough, find one of those fantasies you “want” to live out but haven’t yet, is fear not the biggest reason you have not lived it out? And would it not also be true to say that fear, the fear within the experience is what adds the spice to the fantasy? Fear and desire, fear and fantasy, fear plays a big role.

Fear and Desire with Ambre JadeA huge fantasy that comes up when I work with someone, probably the most popular, is the idea of total Domination over that person’s life. Every action, every desire, every breath needs permission from Me. The desire for this ultimate submission is strong for many submissive people. But the fear of a total lack of control makes them hesitant. The fear of the experience, the fear of not knowing what your Dominant will request of you, is a HUGE part of the desire. Two different fears, two different ways they can manifest.

Best Representation of Fear and Desire Working Together

There are many fantasies and scenarios that show the playful interaction between fear and desire. The best representation, rather the easiest to see the flow between fear and desire is blackmail. Blackmail is a massive fetish. It represents a good portion of My sessions, not all but My having an interrogation fetish means it is easy to add to sessions, but I digress. Blackmail is based on the fear of getting caught. The heart racing, autonomic response to fear heightens the desire, makes the experiences that much more pleasurable. Fear in this instance is a tool.

What fear do you have that goes with your desire? Where does fear and desire work for you?

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

Day 6: Describe Your Weirdest or Most Interesting Fantasy

An interesting fantasy: Tea Party with Ambre JadeI have a great collection of fantasies! Many of which I like to keep a bit more private, so I will share this interesting fantasy. It is likely to not be a surprise to those of you who know Me. I have a rather intense relationship with CFNm and as such I have a fantasy that appeals to Me that reflects that fetish. Normally, My fantasies do not remain fantasy, they become reality and this is an interesting fantasy that would make a wonderful scene. I am really looking forward to the opportunity to play this one out 🙂

So what is this interesting fantasy? It’s a tea party! Not just any tea party. The Guests will all be Domme Friends of Mine. Dressed in high tea clothing, Everyone looking absolutely gorgeous. Of course, We are not going to serve Ourselves. That’s where you come in! Naked boys, bois and me serving Us. Well, not completely naked, a lovely bow tie around each of your necks, collars for those who are collared. What a lovely and interesting fantasy, yes? So much potential.

I find this to be an interesting fantasy for many reasons. Beyond My love of CFNm (clothed Female naked man), this fantasy also touches on My love of humiliation, some teasing, some Voyeurism, because let’s be honest, someone is going to be tortured by one of Us lovely Dommes! How fun would it be for you to put on a show for Us? So many ways this delightfully interesting fantasy could play out! I would prefer that it was a larger group of Dommes and several slaves serving Us. There is also a certain piece of Us being dressed in high tea clothing. That We are dressed conservatively and you, naked, bow tied potentially plugged and caged. What a beautiful image!!!

What is your weirdest of most interesting fantasy? Would you partake in My fantasy?

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À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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