Establishing a Connection

090615How should you go about establishing a connection with a Domme? I often write about the importance of the connection between Goddess and subject. This is an important aspect of your submission that can be overlooked by shiny objects (pictures) and the like. A focus on the physical to create that connection can often lead to a short term submission. Sometimes, that is what you want. A Domme for the moment as opposed to a Domme for your life. I don’t mind the drive by subjects, the ones just looking for a momentary distraction from their vanilla life or a part time replacement for their regular Goddess when She is not available. There is nothing wrong with your erotic self being secondary to other things, so long as you are honest with both yourself and your Goddess.

Say you want to establish a lasting connection. Something worth more than buying time or files. Something that will be lasting and create a bond between you and your desired Goddess. How will you go about it?

It seems obvious to say contact Her, but that contact has a price, one you should be willing to pay. If you are not willing to pay it, or have experienced a history of bad connections and have since become more frivolous with your money, know that paying to contact is not an option. Find ways around it. This does not mean contact Her and say something ridiculous like “just want to know what you would do?” Shit like that makes Us Dommes cringe and block you. We don’t have time to deal with that type of stuff. People contact us on a daily basis with similar requests and it is too complicated to try and weed out those that are actually looking for a connection and those that just want to get off. (There are more rants to this effect but you know what I mean)

So here is a short list of ways to establish an initial connection with your chosen Goddess:

  • Tribute and Buy Time, even with the previous paragraph in mind, paying for time, sending a tribute or gift is still the BEST way to connect. This shows the Domme you are serious about wanting to establish a connection and that you are aware Her time is money. Even if it is just getting to know Her with simple questions. We get asked these questions a lot.
  • READ, most of Us have blogs, read them. Connect with Her words and not Her images. See where She stands on fetishes that are important to you. Find out what is important to Her.
  • Check out Her wishlist. With the right mind, you can look through a wishlist to get to know who She is and what She likes. Buy Her something while you are there. Check out if there are multiple lists, not just the one main one.
  • Follow Her on social media. Some Dommes ask for a tribute for this privilege, it is a privilege not a right. When you follow, We get notifications, every interaction helps boost Us. So follow, share, comment (respectfully). (*** Quick note about Facebook, for Me, I usually ignore friend requests without prior interaction but you can follow Me and/or follow My pages’ feeds.)
  • Sing Her praises when free content is released. Share it on your social media platforms. Comment on posts or videos. Make it so She recognises you, your name, your username, etc.
  • Send an email to say you have been checking Her stuff out. An email. Not an IM. And do so without the promise of a reply. Do it because you are impressed with who She is not because you want Her to reply. If She does, bonus, if She doesn’t who cares, that was never the goal.

Establishing a connection is important. Trust is important. These tips could help you establish a deep connection, or at least realise ways to serve Her better.

À bientôt,

Goddess Ambre Jade



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Guided Imagery Hypnosis

Guided Imagery Hypnosis with Ambre JadeWhen I first started dabbling in hypnosis it was not for erotic or Domme purposes. The role it played in My life was very specific and I used it on rather rare occasions even though I have always been quite skilled. One of the most effect styles, if you will, for Me during that time was guided imagery hypnosis. This is apparent in a great many of My recordings as well as My style in general. I love the combination of detailed but creative scene description combined with poetic prose. As My experience in HypnoDomination increases with time, now at almost 4 years, I have begun combining guided imagery hypnosis with erotic hypnosis.

What is Guided Imagery Hypnosis?

Guided imagery is a process of focuses the mind’s imagination on a specific goal or task and seeing the most positive outcome in as much detail as possible. Depending on how you use this, this can be applicable to a large variety of situation. When making it a guided imagery hypnosis session, you are creating a link between the conscious and subconscious dimensions of imagination. Allowing both programming and personal growth using this technique.

It is rather obvious that guided imagery hypnosis can be used in a huge variety of ways. As well as on an almost unlimited number of levels. Each process within our being functions at a certain vibration, if you will. If you look at pain for example, you have the biological, the nervous system, the endocrine system, the psychological, and more. Now using guided imagery hypnosis, one can simply tap into the specific process. Say the endocrine system. The rush of endorphins and other hormones through the body. Visualising the hormones, where they go, how they function, to what extent you feel them can be played with, effectively making them more or less effective in their function. Guided Imagery Hypnosis gives them form, gives them a presence you can control and sense.

Erotic Guided Imagery Hypnosis

Seeing the potential for an erotic component to guided imagery does not a HypnoDomme take. But a proper HypnoDomme and a properly educated Individual can work the erotic into guided imagery hypnosis with both ease and effectiveness. Guided imagery hypnosis always works best when focused on one specific part of you. One set goal in mind. Without a goal, it is rather pointless. If you are unsure of your goal, speak with your Hypnotist to find the right one for you and the right way to make your hypnotic goal a reality.

Guided Imagery as a Meditation

Some would argue that guided imagery is more a form of meditation than a hypnosis session. I am not one to argue. I don’t believe arguing accomplishes very much. So I will let them have their guided imagery as meditation because I genuinely feel that it can be both. Both a tool within a hypnosis session as well as a tool for effective meditation. And really is hypnosis not a more directed form of meditation? So let’s imagine together and see what we find. Let’s use guided imagery hypnosis as a proper tool and see what we can achieve.

À bientôt,

Goddess Ambre Jade

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Knowing Your Hypnotic Goals

Hypnotic Goals with Ambre Jade

It’s incredibly important that you know your hypnotic goals. I know hypnosis is all about a complete release of control and power BUT you should have a goal in mind. Check out My Beginner’s Guide to Hypnosis page for a bit more information on starting your journey into erotic hypnosis. So what are hypnotic goals? What does that really mean? Everyone has different ideas about hypnosis, how it should be presented, what it means, there is a huge list of variations, which is one of the most delightful things about hypnosis but also one of the most tedious as a HypnoDomme when dealing with a new subject.

With every new subject who calls Me, I ask a series of questions. These are also listed on the guide. The most important question

What is your goal for this and future sessions?

It is a simple enough question but can be incredibly difficult to answer. Which is completely understandable but it is something that should always be addressed! your hypnotic goals are can be fluid and change depending on the intensity of our relationship and the changes to your own sexual desires. Just like sexuality is fluid, erotic hypnosis’ fluidity makes it easily adaptable to any changes to your own sexual evolution. The problem is, hypnotists, regardless of how masterful, are not mind readers! We are not aware of those changes. The evolution. Sometimes we cause the evolution and changes but that implies a relationship. Not something that can be established within the first session.

Brainstorming your Hypnotic Goals

Stream of consciousness writing tends to be My go to when people are looking for their hypnotic goals. It opens up so many possible outcomes and maybe even some hidden depths to your desires. It is a good idea to have some sort of direction to start from. My suggestion to most people starting out is answer this: Do you want to cum? Whether you are allowed to or not, whether you will or not is something completely separate. Do you want to cum? Don’t answer is by simply saying, if My Goddess so desires. your Goddess is not there while you are writing. Just think about it and be honest with yourself. Do you want to cum? This is not a hypnotic goal but rather a stepping stone to finding your hypnotic goals. The answer to that question when written down will allow you to brainstorm your goals.

Yes, i want to cum!

  • Is an orgasm the main focus of your hypnotic goals?
  • Is the act of relinquishing your power over what prompts you to want to orgasm?
  • Do you want to be teased toward orgams?
  • Do you want to be commanded to orgasm?
  • etc

you can easily see where that line of questioning is going! Come up with some more questions or thoughts to write down as part of your hypnotic goals.

No, i don’t want to cum!

  • Do you want to be teased?
  • Do you want your arousal to be completely ignored?
  • Do you find the act of submission erotic enough?
  • etc

Again you can see how these questions go. And you can see how answering the question: Do you want to cum? can bring about a multitude of responses and direction! Also it is a good point to note that it is up to the Hypnotist as to whether or not you orgasm!

So now that we have a starting point, write it down. See where your thoughts bring you! When do you know you have hit the end? When do you know you have found your hypnotic goals? The truth is you never do. As previously stated, sexuality is fluid and evolves. I very often tell My subjects to re-evaluate their hypnotic goals from time to time. See what has changed, what has remained the same.

Examples of Hypnotic Goals:

We talked about finding them, but what are hypnotic goals really? Are they an end result? A step towards ultimate submission? Because of the uniqueness of each individual, no one can really say for certain, there is no clear definition. And sometimes an example is worth a thousand explanations. (Yes I know that is pictures and words but I think the same rules apply.)

  • Cock control, allowing my Goddess to completely control My desire.
  • Tease and denial
  • Grooming to be a submissive
  • Exploring a fetish
  • Feeling what it would be like to be a Woman
  • Deep trance
  • Role plays, therapist, teacher, etc
  • many, many more

The main thing to remember is you have some idea what your hypnotic goals will be! Even if you only have a vague idea or a bunch general hypnotic goals. So get to writing and communicating! How do you find your hypnotic goals? How have they evolved over time and within different relationships?

À bientôt,

Ambre Jade

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Controlled by a Goddess


That moment when you realise that every action you take is controlled by a Goddess. When your thoughts are so intertwined with Hers that you are no longer certain whether it was originally from your mind or Hers. How far are you willing to go? To what depth are you willing to please and serve Her?

Everyone has an ideal in their heads. The ideal relationship. The ideal Goddess. The ideal setting. Basically add ideal to anything and someone has that pictured in their mind. What level of control is ideal to you? To what extent, ideally, would you want to be controlled by a Goddess? I have many people contact Me, message Me, tweet Me, etc. who would like their entire life to be controlled by Me. Of course, I mean, who wouldn’t? The problem being they are playing in the ideal, they are not accepting of the real world control. Many seem to be under the impression that giving up control is an adequate currency to be controlled by a Goddess. But this is not My ideal. My ideal is total control, absolutely but Goddesses should be worshiped. Compensation for My time should be without question.

Just earlier today I was approached by an individual claiming he wanted to be hypnotised, wanted to be controlled. Beautiful, I love hypnosis, I love taking control! But upon the realisation that being controlled by a Goddess came at a price he objected. Well, why would I want to control someone where there is no benefit to Me? This is something that happens when your passion is also your business. Because I am so passionate and because of My love of hypnosis, I should be taking control for free.

NO! My demand of actual compensation for My time and command for sacrifices from you for My time does not make the relationship a fantasy or less than real. It does not mean I do not think about My slaves when I am “not working.” What it does is show that you, as a submissive, understand that My time is valuable. It shows that you as a hypnotic subject appreciate the time and effort I put in to the relationship we have. It is nothing more and nothing less than that.

Being controlled by Me, being controlled by a Goddess demands a sacrifice. A sacrifice of your time, your free will, your ability to decide certain things. Being controlled by Me is a luxury. It is a blessing. A gift even. When you find your Goddess, your religion, you are grateful, you understand that you surrender yourself over to Her will, Her desires and your devotion should reflect that.

À bientôt,

Ambre Jade