Orgasm Control and Chastity

Orgasm Control and Chastity are, on a basic level, the denial of orgasms to promote a more submissive and pliable state. If the option to orgasm is removed or constrained to my specific wishes, then there is no need for you to have any control. This by its very nature, creates the perfect environment for submission. There are many ways to manifest orgasm control during a Femdom session. My favourites include:

  • Tease and Denial
  • Edging Play
  • Ruined Orgasm
  • JOI (Jerk Off Instructions) or Guided Masturbation

Tease and Denial:

I love teasing, reminding you of what you want and can never have. Giving you a glimpse into the pleasure you could have but that I will deny you. You become so turned on, so horny, you have no choice but to obey me. The possibility, the faint glimmer of hope that I will let you cum brings you to the brink of malleability. You become my horny, pliable puppet. My toy for amusement. All you have to do is obey… but don’t cum my dear, you haven’t earned that yet.

Edging Play:

Playing on the edge of needing to cum. Aching and needing to cum so fucking badly you would do anything to end this torment. The torment is where the pleasure stems from. The torment is what drives you to return to me over and over again. Just on the edge of orgasm where so many things are possible. I have my moments where I take edging play to a whole different level, for those who like to play on the edge with multiple bodily functions… sounds intriguing, I know!

Ruined Orgasm:

Oh, you might get to cum, but that doesn’t mean you will enjoy it. I should receive the pleasure from your orgasm. You don’t deserve to feel the pleasure release offers you. That potential pleasure becomes a source of my entertainment. You’ll beg and plead and I will still win.

JOI (Jerk Off Instructions) aka Guided Masturbation:

A versatile experience, JOI has the potential of being sweet, and caring as well as the potential of being an absolutely devastating experience to your psyche. That sort of duality makes it one of the more creative experiences I can offer. I love it. Each person is different and each interaction is different, all with endless possibilities.

Chastity and Keyholding:

Contrary to ones initial thoughts on chastity, with me, it is an incredibly active experience. People often associate chastity with passivity, and while it does have its time and place, keeping someone in chastity is an incredible active process.

Teasing, talking, submitting, tempting, these are all parts of your daily experience in chastity. I prefer people going on long bouts of chastity, the longer the better.


Some people cannot be trusted with access to their pleasure centers. As such, they need to be locked, or forced into chastity. This involves two keys. One for me, and one for you. The key that is sent to me, will remain in my custody for as long as you are chaste for me. The other key, well I will tell you how to deal with it when the time comes. It is important that you have access to it, in case of emergency. It will not be easy and you will have to prove that it has remained undisturbed during your chaste period for me.