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Fear and Desire

February 11, 2015 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Fetish

In My experience, fear and desire go hand in hand. What an individual fears is on many occasions something they desire. And vice versa. As you may have noticed this week I am focusing on fear, as I think it is an important part of your experience with a Domme. Fear plays a massive part on how we react to stimuli, how we perceive danger vs pleasure. So why would it not play a huge part in our desires? Our desires, our deep desires, the ones we do not like to talk about, often come from a place of fear. Fear and desire go together. They create a delicious ebb and flow between emotions, reactions and submission.

Fear and Desire in Fantasy Life

In our fantasies, in our imaginations we have the ability to create any scenario and the fear we feel, is less “real” making it safe to explore without worrying about the consequences. Think about it for a moment. If you reflect enough, find one of those fantasies you “want” to live out but haven’t yet, is fear not the biggest reason you have not lived it out? And would it not also be true to say that fear, the fear within the experience is what adds the spice to the fantasy? Fear and desire, fear and fantasy, fear plays a big role.

A huge fantasy that comes up when I work with someone, probably the most popular, is the idea of total Domination over that person’s life. Every action, every desire, every breath needs permission from Me. The desire for this ultimate submission is strong for many submissive people. But the fear of a total lack of control makes them hesitant. The fear of the experience, the fear of not knowing what your Dominant will request of you, is a HUGE part of the desire. Two different fears, two different ways they can manifest.

Best Representation of Fear and Desire Working Together

There are many fantasies and scenarios that show the playful interaction between fear and desire. The best representation, rather the easiest to see the flow between fear and desire is blackmail. Blackmail is a massive fetish. It represents a good portion of My sessions, not all but My having an interrogation fetish means it is easy to add to sessions, but I digress. Blackmail is based on the fear of getting caught. The heart racing, autonomic response to fear heightens the desire, makes the experiences that much more pleasurable. Fear in this instance is a tool.

What fear do you have that goes with your desire? Where does fear and desire work for you?

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

Some Thoughts on FemDom Name Calling

January 21, 2015 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Fetish, Sessions2 Comments

I am not a huge fan of name calling. Well, that’s an exaggeration. There are certain terms and expressions I LOVE and use on a fairly regular basis. I do have many terms I hate to use and hate to say. When the terms come up organically, I have no issues. The rhythm is not broken and things just flow nicely. It is not that I have a problem with naughty words or aggressive behaviour. Believe Me, I have no qualms being a bitchy Cunt! There are just some terms that are a seemingly prominent part of Femdom name calling. To each Their own, of course, and I do not criticize anyone for using the terms I dislike. I just have trouble forcing them from between My tasty lips.

Why do I hate these Femdom name calling terms? And what terms get under My skin.

paypig: I cannot even begin to explain how much I hate this term and how it is comes up soooo often within the Findom community. I get it “OINK OINK OINK” and all that. But why this particular term? I have tried, I really have to love this Femdom name calling term. It is hugely popular. It is great business but fuck, I just cannot get down with it. I have said piggy before. It came out nicely as My guy was snorting at the time. I wish I could give you a more precise reason as to why it irks Me so much. I really do not know. Perhaps it is a combination of its overuse and the idea that the relationship is so completely one dimension. I am not saying it is one dimensional, it just seems that way whenever I read it.

faggot: I have said it before and will likely say it again but only when it flows well. My aversion to this particular Femdom name calling term is easier to put into words than paypig. This word just feeds homophobia and the idea that being gay is an insult. It isn’t. It is a state of being.

stupid: Oh My Fucking Gods do I hate this word!!! As a way to describe a specific behaviour, I have no problems using it. “Well fuck, that was stupid!” But as a word to describe an individual, especially an individual who has chosen to spend their time with Me, NO, NEVER. When you make the decision to worship Me, to spend on Me, to talk with Me, you are making a brilliant choice! This Femdom name calling word does not apply. you are not stupid. By calling Me, you have proven that you are not stupid.

sissy: This Femdom name calling term is up there with paypig in that I really want to like it. And the term does apply in many many cases. It does come up naturally, and in those instances I will use it. But I hate Myself afterwards, every single time. It reminds Me is school yard bullying bullshit. Which could easily be why some people enjoy that particular term. There is also the undertones and implications that being feminized makes you inferior. If anything to Me, feminization brings you up the ladder 🙂

Are there Femdom Name Calling Terms you dislike? Do you like some of the ones on My list?

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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October #FOTM: SpH

October 1, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Fetish

October is going to be a fun ass month!!! sph, small penis humiliation is the #FOTM for us at the Femdom Devotionals forum! So much fun. I have talked about both the #FOTM and Our forum before so I will not get into that but sph 😀 So fun!

I love this fetish! The funniest part about sph when I am on one on one sessions with people is that about 75% of the people I talk to feel the need to tell Me that in reality it isn’t as small as they claim during the session. What a hilarious response! I mean, cher, doesn’t matter how big or small you are, we will not be fucking! Do you do that? Do you feel the need to express your actual size? Maybe it is a component of the aftercare necessary on the part of the sub. I still find it amusing!

So what can you look forward to this month from Myself, Empress Vox Siren and Princess Indigo this month? SO many things!!! We haven’t completely figured out Our schedule but let Me tell you, the shit We have come up with for you is fucking golden! Brutal but erotic as fuck! you weaklings will have no idea what has hit you until it is too late!

But What is SpH?

Small penis Humiliation is usual a verbal assault on your manhood or rather lack there of! Everyone has a different way of approaching it, a different way it manifests in Their sessions. One of My favourite things to do is force you to find an instrument of measure, a ruler, a penis, something where size comparison is obvious and force you to voice what a teenie tiny weenie you have! It’s fucking delicious when you realise you are completely ill equipped when it comes to satisfying Me in a sexual way. All you can offer is your humiliation for My entertainment! My being entertained is important.

Are you the owner of a teenie weenie? Is it so small you have never felt anything while fucking another person? Tell Me about it! And pay your teenie weenie tax!

Teenie Weenie Tax:

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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Day 1: Dom, sub or Switch

September 26, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom1 Comment

This is Day One, in My 30 days of kink; Dom, sub or switch?

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

I am most definitely a Domme (Dom, in the format of the question)! I have briefly and recently discussed My past experiences as a Switch on the FORUM so I will not get into that here. I believe what made Me actually feel like a switch or a sub in My past was that for a short time I could easily identify as a masochist. It could have been more a stage of exploration and discovery but I did self identify as such. These masochistic tendencies are what brought Me to the world of BDSM.

Though, I no longer identify as submissive, switch or masochist, I am grateful for the experiences and the sensation I felt while enjoy those scenes. Without them, I would not have been able to find My true calling as a Domme. I know there are many people who will read this and think that having subbed in the past makes Me less Dominant but you can kiss My ass. I owe you no explanation. I believe in honesty above all things and therefore My disclosure of past experiences.

I believe My time spent subbing and switching as well as My time experiencing torturous scene has created an incredibly well grounded, well educated, well rounded Domme.

Definitions are always difficult for Me. Especially when it comes to aspects of sexuality. Since sensuality, sexuality and kink are so fluid and the relationship within them so different from individual to individual it is difficult to create and apt definition.

I believe what makes a Domme, the main characteristic She has that let’s you know She is the one for you, is the ability to create an environment where the submissive can flourish. A relationship where the sub, slave, whatever descriptor you want to use, can blossom into something more than they were before their service. This applies to just about any D/s relationship. The qualities of a Domme and the qualities of a submissive is sooo dependent on the style of relationship they have.

My Dominance stems from a love of control, a need even. I micromanage, I am obsessive about things being done MY way. And though in some relationships that would be considered a negative, the style of relationships I have makes this quality a big plus 😉 It is one of the biggest attraction to BDSM that I have. I have discovered that I am slightly sadistic. What started as a curiosity and exploration as a maso was, retrospectively, a cry for knowledge about pain and an inability to morally get over Myself. This is a discussion that deserves its own post so I will get to that eventually 🙂

Being Dominant, is having power and using that power to mould your sub into your desire while simultaneously allowing them the oportunity to grow and bloom in Your service. This is what I hold Myself to and part of why I am so particular about who I am willing to take on as a permanent slave, PT or FT!

What are your definitions? How do you see yourself? Are you a Dom, sub or switch? Join this journey of 30 days of kink with Me and many others!

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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How to Spank Over the Phone

September 23, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom, Fetish, Sessions

September’s #FOTM wrapping up and I finally get around to talking about how to Spank over the Phone! Well I talk a little about it 🙂 I randomly decided to give you the luxury of hearing My voice as I am not really in the mood to write! So enjoy the gift of listening to Me!

Spanking #FOTM

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Pick a player, they are both the same, depending on your browser you might to pick one of the other. Also you can download it clicking the downward arrow beside the first!

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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PS Yes, I could have edited things out but I didn’t feel like it. My puppy was making Me laugh while I was recording!

Time to Explore FemDomme with Ambre Jade

June 24, 2014 by Ms Ambre Jadein Femdom

The time has come for Me to create a site and blog entirely devoted to FemDomme and My more harsh side. While being a HypnoGoddess is a wonderful and tremendously satisfying, I can only devote so much time to creating personalised session over the phone. This limits the amount of time I can spend with each slave. By branching out and creating Niteflirt listings as well as other ways for you to prove your devotion to Me, I will be available for a variety of other types of sessions.

This is all about Me, My wants, My needs and you trying as hard as you can to satisfy them. I have rather eclectic tastes when it comes to My slaves and what I enjoy doing with them. I want this to be mutually satisfying but with My Own satisfaction being at the forefront. I have no intention to listen to someone try and top from the bottom or orchestrate some intricate fantasy of theirs. you are welcome to share your fantasy with Me but should it not be something I enjoy, I will not partake.

Being My slaves involves many things that I plan on outlining here. For starters, protocols. I adore protocols and as I add them, you are expected to follow them, to the letter, without question. I will briefly outline a few and others will pop up and you will be informed as I see fit.

When you approach Me, you will refer to Me as Ambre Jade until such time as we establish a relationship. For example, once we have done a session or have communicate for more than a single email or message. At which point you will refer to Me as “Maîtresses.” Goddess is also an acceptable title as is Master or Mistress but I prefer Maîtresse.

you will upon first talking with Me be frank and clear about your limitations, be they physical or psychological. If you have a blown out knee and I ask you to knee for forty five minutes you will not be happy and I will be unhappy because that action will limit our dealings in the future. So Be Clear, when asked.

you will speak only when spoken to.

Financial sacrifices and tributes are required! I love what I do but no sacrifice is the same without the exchange of money. This is both My work and My pleasure. I deserve to be financially compensated.

I plan on explore that delicious edge of pain and pleasure with many and you will be lucky if I accept you.

Maîtresse Ambre Jade