Healthy Living Tuesdays

It was recently asked “Why do you post about health, food, exercise… aren’t you a聽Dominatrix?” I suppose this is a fair question. The topics are write about tend to be incredibly varied and since amalgamating all my sites into one, my vast range of topics is clearly identifiable. So why do I write about healthy living? What does that have to do with D/s relationships?

Healthy Living Tuesdays with Ambre JadeWell, for some people nothing. For some, the two are not connected. My musings on well being look simply out of place when you contrast them with posts about Femdom and Fetishism. Posts about eating more broccoli are聽not likely bring me more clients. But posts about eating more broccoli, reminds people that eating more broccoli is important to me. Which means, if they truly want to serve or please me, eating more broccoli will become important to them!

In serving me, you are a reflection of my desires. You should strive to represent me, my passions, my lifestyle to the best of your abilities. This is important to remember. If someone is serving me, then I want them to showcase, to embrace a lifestyle that not only has me at its core but my work ethic, my morals… you get the idea.

Health and well-being are important aspects of my life. I have struggled with illness, surgery, weight gain, a loss of control over my health and over the past four years, I am taking control again. I am pushing myself to better my quality of life. You shoudl do the same. Not only because you would benefit from it, but also because I want you to.

I want my slaves, subs, subjects to want to embrace a similar lifestyle. To endeavour to better themselves both physically and mentally. To embrace Femdom and through it gain confidence, self esteem and all those wonderful empowering things.

Healthy living makes for healthy slaving… So yes, I will always post healthy living articles and no they will not likely be wank fodder, you can handle it 馃槈

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Fitness Testing, I have to do it so should you

So my karate people, read individuals who are far more advanced than myself, have decided that all of us within the Yudansha (1st degree black belt and above) should perform various fitness exercises and compare our results. While this sort of fitness testing makes sense to me, I do have some anxiety related to it. Many of the exercises are not one that I excel at. Most are body weight exercises, various calisthenics and a metric metric mile run. Running is not, and has never been my thing. I have been trying to add running to my weekly routine, I am finding it very difficult to find the time and the energy to be honest. I do my martial arts training daily. As well as classes 4 days a week and a fighting fit class. Combine this with working and parenting, my time is really quite limited.

If I want to do well in this fitness testing, I better start making it a higher priority. We have not been given a date for the actual testing yet, so I figure start now, get you guys involved. Motivation for both myself and you to move some more. So here are the exercises (hopefully not breaking some BS secret society rule):

  1. Metric mile run – TIME
  2. Knuckle push ups (arms close to the body, elbows behind hand, to 90 degrees) – TO FAILURE (proper technique for each one)
  3. Wide push ups (arms farther from the body, about chest, fingers pointing away from the body) – TO FAILURE
  4. Triangle – Diamond push ups (hands at the xiphoid process ish, index fingers and thumbs touching to create a diamond / triangle) – TO FAILURE
  5. Plank (standard on elbows plank) – TIME
  6. Side plank (hand that is not taking the body weight to be in the air) X 2 – TIME
  7. Lunges (walking motion with twenty pound weights in each hand) – TO FAILURE
  8. Wall sit (against a wall, sit with legs at a 90 degree angle) – TIME
  9. Sit ups (hands extended forward, to reach knees) – 60 SECONDS
  10. Curl ups (hand on opposite shoulder, crossed, elbows to knees) – 60 SECONDS
  11. Pull ups (hands about should width apart, palms out) – TO FAILURE

Depending on the number you perform, age, and gender, you will be assigned a numerical value for each exercise.

Fitness Testing with Ambre JadeI would like to do something similar with those trying to keep up with me on My Fitness Pal and my healthy living boys. Consider this an assignment! This week you will test each one of those exercises and give me the results. You can do one or two a day, they don’t have to be all at the same time. Included in your results, I would like age and gender.

I will share my results as well!

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Budgeting For Findom Slaves, Domme Advice

Over the last few weeks, there have been three incidents in which I create a budget for a Findom slave. Some people seem to believe that budgeting for findom slaves takes away some of the fun, that by capping what you can give, or rather what you should give takes away from the experience. From a personal standpoint, I have never found it so. I have always enjoyed creating budgets, pinching pennies,聽finding creative solutions, things like that. I have primarily created such plans for those who worship me, but on a few occasions there have been requests from individuals (slaves) who serve another.

Seeking Advice

Budgeting for Findom slavesThese slaves, though for me, I look upon them as individuals seeing as they serve another, tend to be looking for an impartial look at their contributions to their Goddess’ lifestyle without living out of a cardboard box. As sexy as the fantasy of breaking financially, the reality is not so pleasant. Sure, an accountant would be best but do you desire admitting to your accountant that this is your fetish? Do you want to have to explain the who, what, where, when, why s of your financial domination fetish? Finding someone who both understands your fetish and is excellent with numbers would be a perfect compromise. You could also speak with your Goddess, but not everyone wants to admit there are limitations on their spending or it is just not something that is part of their findom experience. Also, let’s be honest, Findoms (and there are many, many exceptions to this prejudice) are not very well known for their benevolence. Sometimes you need an outside voice that understands and is willing to help.

Budgeting for Findom slaves that Serve Me

An outside voice is not the motivation when you serve me. I am the only voice. The motivation comes from a desire to give more, not just money but also more information. The creation of a budget requires a large amount of information to the shared with me. I have an understanding of how you spend and what you spend it on. I can see and judge your priorities. This sharing of information, under the right conditions can be incredibly erotic. Information is power and knowing your financial situation is more information for me 馃檪

I want Ambre Jade to help me with my Findom budget!

Naturally you can see how budgeting for Findom slaves would be beneficial to myself and to you, as the slave. How do you make that a reality? There are a few choices:

  • Call my Lifestyle Line on Niteflirt, I will get all the information I need from you and subsequently send you a delightful spreadsheet
  • Call my toll free (mention it is for budgeting, it is cheaper than hypnosis)
  • Email me AmbientAmbre@gmail.com and enclose a 50$ tribute via giftrocket.

Be on the look out for more budget tips, including how to make more money for your Goddess.

Have fun with your budget planning!

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30 Day Chastity Challenge Finally Together

I hinted at this with My last post. More fun and excitement on the chastity front from Me 馃檪 I have created what I feel is something rather unique. A 30 Day Challenge that brings together chastity and teasing. I wanted to create something unique, something a bit more fun that your standard just don’t cum for 30 Days challenge!聽Some that would聽tease you and聽tantalize and bring you to the edge just about every day of this challenge. I wanted to exercise My creativity while giving you the opportunity to feel My distinct influence running over you.
Now, I get that some of you will see 30 Days as a long challenge. Something daunting and potentially unattainable. Here’s the thing, you can do it. you can successful avoid orgasm for 30 days for Me. It is a sacrifice you are making for Me. It might be the hardest sacrifice you have faced in a long time, but it will be both pleasurable and memorable. It will test you, it will fuck with you. It will play with your senses… I am so excited for this, you have no idea!

I created an audio introduction to My 30 Day Chastity Challenge for you. This will give you an idea of the tone and My style of teasing for the next 30 Days!

How Does the 30 Day Chastity Challenge Work?

Right now, I am mainly pushing the challenge through My Femdom Niteflirt. It is available through paid mail, if you are not familiar with the system, you can find all kinds of information on their site. Each mail will contain the instructions (audio and brief outline through type) for that day as well as a link, button, for the following day as well as a cum tax should you fuck up, which you won’t.

you can also email Me for other ways you can participate outside of Niteflirt. you will receive an email the night before, so that you wake to your instructions in your inbox! Lucky you!

Enjoy this challenge, it is the first of many to come!

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Total Control By Ambre Jade

Total Control with Ambre JadeTotal control is a surprisingly subjective concept. For each Domme and each sub, the idea of what constitutes total control varies. One would assume it would be obvious. your Domme controls every action, every thought, every moment of your life. This is a valid definition and idea but how is that represented in a practical sense? For those who are not live in slaves, those who decide that a long distance relationship is more practical or those who have financial dealings with their Dommes, the idea of total control is a little more difficult to define and for some, even to perceive.

I receive a number of inquiries about how total control manifests itself with a relationship with Me. Many people have their own perceptions on how a total control dynamic should work or ideas on how it works that are different from My manifestation of this style of relationship. As the individual relationships in question, contribute a great deal to how it presents itself, it is easier for Me to list some misconceptions about total control that are just not valid when working with Me.

What Total Control by Ambre Jade is NOT about:

  • Ruining your current relationships. I am not about ruining your other relationships. Like your marriage or destroying the bond between you and your children, mother, aunt, family, etc. you can see where I am going here. I do not believe in the destruction of your marital status. That is a dynamic in which I can control how you behave. your Wife can give you things I cannot. I control how you interact with your Wife, partner, girlfriend, etc. I think these relationships should be cherished and I will determine how you can add to them.
  • Destroying your financial stability. A broke slave is a useless slave. I have no desires to strip you of every penny you have. What I do control, is how you spend. Potentially, how you can earn. I create and control the budget. Obviously a portion goes to Me!
  • Isolation. I do not want you completely isolated. I want you to have other relationships, friendships, dates, a social life. I do not want you completely isolated from society. I encourage you to go out, with My permission.
  • Being a doormat. you have hobbies, likes and dislikes, activities you enjoy, etc. Those should factor into My total control of you. If there is something within our dynamic that is not working, there is a time and a place to voice it. The time and the place will be determined by Me but you will have an opportunity to voice thoughts and concerns and all those fun things.

The most important thing when it comes to total control is FULL DISCLOSURE. I need to know about every aspect of your life in order to determine聽the who, what, where, when, why and hows of your new life.聽This is a serious commitment both from you and from Me. I am taking on the decisions and course of your life. That is a huge commitment from both of us. Total control is not something I would offer to just anyone. There has to be a good rapport between the two of us for it to be something we can work with.

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Fear and Desire

In My experience, fear and desire go hand in hand. What an individual fears is on many occasions something they desire. And vice versa. As you may have noticed this week I am focusing on fear, as I think it is an important part of your experience with a Domme. Fear plays a massive part on how we react to stimuli, how we perceive danger vs pleasure. So why would it not play a huge part in our desires? Our desires, our deep desires, the ones we do not like to talk about, often come from a place of fear. Fear and desire go together. They create a delicious ebb and flow between emotions, reactions and submission.

Fear and Desire in Fantasy Life

In our fantasies, in our imaginations we have the ability to create any scenario and the fear we feel, is less “real” making it safe to explore without worrying about the consequences.聽Think about it for a moment. If you reflect enough, find one of those fantasies you “want” to live out but haven’t yet,聽is fear not the biggest reason you have not lived it out? And would it not also be true to say that fear, the fear within the experience is what adds the spice to the fantasy? Fear and desire, fear and fantasy, fear plays a big role.

Fear and Desire with Ambre JadeA huge fantasy that comes up when I work with someone, probably the most popular, is the idea of total Domination over that person’s life. Every action, every desire, every breath needs permission from Me. The desire for this ultimate submission is strong for many submissive people. But the fear of a total lack of control makes them hesitant. The fear of the experience, the fear of not knowing what your Dominant will request of you, is a HUGE part of the desire. Two different fears, two different ways they can manifest.

Best Representation of Fear and Desire Working Together

There are many fantasies and scenarios that show the playful interaction between fear and desire. The best representation, rather the easiest to see the flow between fear and desire is blackmail. Blackmail is a massive fetish. It represents a good portion of My sessions, not all but My having an interrogation fetish means it is easy to add to sessions, but I digress. Blackmail is based on the fear of getting caught. The heart racing, autonomic response to fear heightens the desire, makes the experiences that much more pleasurable. Fear in this instance is a tool.

What fear do you have that goes with your desire? Where does fear and desire work for you?

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Some Thoughts on FemDom Name Calling

I am not a huge fan of name calling. Well, that’s an exaggeration. There are certain terms and expressions I LOVE and use on a fairly regular basis. I do have many terms I hate to use and hate to say. When the terms come up organically, I have no issues. The rhythm is not broken and things just flow nicely. It is not that I have a problem with naughty words or aggressive behaviour. Believe Me, I have no qualms being a bitchy Cunt! There are just some terms that are a seemingly prominent part of Femdom name calling. To each Their own, of course, and I do not criticize anyone for using the terms I dislike. I just have trouble forcing them from between My tasty lips.

Why do I hate these Femdom name calling terms? And what terms get under My skin.

Femdom Name Calling with Ambre Jade

paypig: I cannot even begin to explain how much I hate this term and how it is comes up soooo often within the Findom community. I get it “OINK OINK OINK” and all that. But why this particular term? I have tried, I really have to love this Femdom name calling term. It is hugely popular. It is great business but fuck, I just cannot get down with it. I have said piggy before. It came out nicely as My guy was snorting at the time. I wish I could give you a more precise reason as to why it irks Me so much. I really do not know. Perhaps it is a combination of its overuse and the idea that the relationship is so completely one dimension. I am not saying it is one dimensional, it just seems that way whenever I read it.

faggot: I have said it before and will likely say it again but only when it flows well. My aversion to this particular Femdom name calling term is easier to put into words than聽paypig. This word just feeds homophobia and the idea that being gay is an insult. It isn’t. It is a state of being.

stupid: Oh My Fucking Gods do I hate this word!!! As a way to describe a specific behaviour, I have no problems using it. “Well fuck, that was stupid!” But as a word to describe an individual, especially an individual who has chosen to spend their time with Me, NO, NEVER. When you make the decision to worship Me, to spend on Me, to talk with Me, you are making a brilliant choice! This Femdom name calling word does not apply. you are not stupid. By calling Me, you have proven that you are not stupid.

sissy: This Femdom name calling term is up there with paypig in that I really want to like it. And the term does apply in many many cases. It does come up naturally, and in those instances I will use it. But I hate Myself afterwards, every single time. It reminds Me is school yard bullying bullshit. Which could easily be why some people enjoy that particular term. There is also the undertones and implications that being feminized makes you inferior. If anything to Me, feminization brings you up the ladder 馃檪

Are there Femdom Name Calling Terms you dislike? Do you like some of the ones on My list?

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October #FOTM: SpH

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October is going to be a fun ass month!!! sph, small penis humiliation is the #FOTM for us at the Femdom Devotionals forum! So much fun. I have talked about both the #FOTM and Our forum before so I will not get into that but sph 馃榾 So fun!

I love this fetish! The funniest part about sph聽when I am on one on one sessions with people is that about 75% of the people I talk to feel the need to tell Me that in reality it isn’t as small as they claim during the session. What a hilarious response! I mean, cher, doesn’t matter how big or small you are, we will not be fucking! Do you do that? Do you feel the need to express your actual size? Maybe it is a component of the aftercare necessary on the part of the sub. I still find it amusing!

So what can you look forward to this month from Myself, Empress Vox Siren and Princess Indigo this month? SO many things!!! We haven’t completely figured out Our schedule but let Me tell you, the shit We have come up with for you is fucking golden! Brutal but erotic as fuck! you weaklings will have no idea what has hit you until it is too late!

But What is SpH?

Small penis Humiliation is usual a verbal assault on your manhood or rather lack there of! Everyone has a different way of approaching it, a different way it manifests in Their sessions. One of My favourite things to do is force you to find an instrument of measure, a ruler, a penis, something where size comparison is obvious and force you to voice what a teenie tiny weenie you have! It’s fucking delicious when you realise you are completely ill equipped when it comes to satisfying Me in a sexual way. All you can offer is your humiliation for My entertainment! My being entertained is important.

Are you the owner of a teenie weenie? Is it so small you聽have never felt anything while fucking another person? Tell Me about it! And pay your teenie weenie tax!

Teenie Weenie Tax:

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Day 1: Dom, sub or Switch

This is Day One, in My 30 days of kink;聽Dom, sub or switch?

Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? 聽What parts of BDSM interest you? 聽Give us an interesting聽in-depth聽definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

KinksmI am most definitely a Domme (Dom, in the format of the question)! I have briefly and recently discussed My past experiences as a Switch on the FORUM so I will not get into that here. I believe what made Me actually feel like a switch or a sub in My past was that for a short time I could easily identify as a masochist. It could have been more a stage of exploration and discovery but I did self identify as such. These masochistic tendencies are what brought Me to the world of BDSM.

Though, I no longer identify as submissive, switch or masochist, I am grateful for the experiences and the sensation I felt while enjoy those scenes. Without them, I would not have been able to find My true calling as a Domme. I know there are many people who will read this and think that having subbed in the past makes Me less Dominant but you can kiss My ass. I owe you no explanation. I believe in honesty above all things and therefore My disclosure of past experiences.

I believe My time spent subbing and switching as well as My time experiencing torturous scene has created an incredibly well grounded, well educated, well rounded Domme.

Definitions are always difficult for Me. Especially when it comes to aspects of sexuality. Since sensuality, sexuality and kink are so fluid and the relationship within them so different from individual to individual it is difficult to create and apt definition.

I believe what makes a Domme, the main characteristic She has that let’s you know She is the one for you, is the ability to create an environment where the submissive can flourish. A relationship where the sub, slave, whatever descriptor you want to use, can blossom into something more than they were before their service. This applies to just about any D/s relationship. The qualities of a Domme and the qualities of a submissive is sooo dependent on the style of relationship they have.

maso092614My Dominance stems from a love of control, a need even. I micromanage, I am obsessive about things being done MY way. And though in some relationships that would be considered a negative, the style of relationships I have makes this quality a big plus 馃槈 It is one of the biggest attraction to BDSM that I have. I have discovered that I am slightly sadistic. What started as a curiosity and exploration as a maso was, retrospectively, a cry for knowledge about pain and an inability to morally get over Myself. This is a discussion that deserves its own post so I will get to that eventually 馃檪

Being Dominant, is having power and using that power to mould your sub into your desire while simultaneously allowing them the oportunity to grow and bloom in Your service. This is what I hold Myself to and part of why I am so particular about who I am willing to take on as a permanent slave, PT or FT!

What are your definitions? How do you see yourself? Are you a Dom, sub or switch? Join this journey of 30 days of kink with Me and many others!

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How to Spank Over the Phone

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September’s #FOTM wrapping up and I finally get around to talking about how to聽Spank over the Phone! Well I talk a little about it 馃檪 I randomly decided to give you the luxury of hearing My voice as I am not really in the mood to write! So enjoy the gift of listening to Me!

Spanking #FOTM

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Pick a player, they are both the same, depending on your browser you might to pick one of the other. Also you can download it clicking the downward arrow beside the first!

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PS Yes, I could have edited things out but I didn’t feel like it. My puppy was making Me laugh while I was recording!